Here are three tips on how to have the rough sex you want:
Understand that rough sex is a mature thing to ask for.
People get confused when their partner asks for rough sex because they “don’t want to hurt you”.
However, when it comes to love, people arent looking to get hurt but still end up hurt more than they’d like.
The point here is that our desires can be irrational, regardless of how rational we seem.
Rough sex can be different for every person.
You need to ask questions.
Are they receiving rough pleasure or giving rough pleasure? Who is it for?
What are the payoffs we are looking for? Is it mutual or consensually one-sided?
Figure out the things they consider rough.
Ask your partner to rate roughness on a scale of 1 to 5.
Ask them what they rate the following:
- Biting
- Faceslapping
- Choking
- Thrust tempo
- Dirty Talk
- [specific kinks]
- etc
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DOM SUB 101 teaches you essential basic and advanced BDSM concepts, such as DomSpeak, power exchange, finding a partner, poly jealousy, primal play, contracts, worksheets and so on.
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Rose 2-in-1 Vibrator is easily one of the most pleasurable experiences she’s looking to have. (Read reviews)
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Relationship Subliminal for self-hypnotism will help you change your unconscious behavior, gain better relationships, and attract like-minded people and partners.
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