Sensate Focus is a practice that decreases anxiety towards intimacy and allows for greater physical connection with a partner.
How Does Sensate Focus Work?
Sensate focus works best when practiced two or three times per week, with each session lasting about 20 to 30 minutes.
You can practice sensate focus individually, or with a partner if your difficulties are happening within a relationship.
Make sure the environment is relaxing with no distractions.
Stages of Sensate Focus
Part 1 – You can be naked or with flowy clothes. You can touch the body but not the genitals. For 30 minutes you will touch your partner everywhere except their genitals, breasts, and butt. After 30 minutes, you both swap places and the other person gets touched.
Part 2 – You will do the same thing with the same amount of time between both partners, except now you will also be able to touch breasts, genitals, and butt. The intention is to not give those parts any more attention than the rest of the body.
Part 3 – Now you will bring lotion into the mix. This will make it a more sensual experience. Both partners get 30 minutes each.
Part 4 – Now you can add more sexual touch to the mix. But you’re not going to orgasm. You both can now touch each other more freely within a span of 30 minutes.
Part 5 – You can now have sex. By this point you understand that sex is the entire experience and it’s sensation-driven, not orgasm-driven.
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