This post, Your Essential Guide to Wax Play, is written by my friend Asani.
Heat and hotness have always been related to sexual tension.
“Being caught in the heat of the moment.”
But if you want to experience real heat in the bedroom, you need to check out wax play.
My master and i are so fond of including molten wax in our sexual routine, we can’t get enough of it.
What is Wax Play?
Wax play involves dripping molten wax from candles onto the back or front of your partner’s body.
According to sexologists, this activity brings sensual pleasure through temperature play.
It’s actually kinda extraordinary and sexy. Imagine dripping hot wax onto your partner’s nude body and watching it cool down on their skin.
How does Wax Play work?
So basically, you get the gist that wax play is when we play with candles and all. But there is more to it.
Let’s dive deeper.
So first step is to light a candle. And there are specific candles, which we’ll get into later. Then, when the candle is lit up enough, you let the wax melt and drip onto your partner’s skin.
Now what you experiment with is the distance between skin and candle. You can pour the wax closer to the skin to feel the fresh heat and a sharper sting. Or you can pour the wax from further away, letting the wax cool before it hits the skin.
You definitely want to explore and see where you like to feel this best. For example, some people like getting it on their back, while others go for the nipples and chest. Some want to have it around the penis and vaginas. Then when the wax cools off, you can peel off the wax from these regions.
Using blindfolds, gags, and ropes also makes this more fun. It adds to the control factor and plays on the master and submissive roles.
You can also play with temperature by bringing ice into play. But, again, this is all about experimenting.
Specific Preparations for Wax Play
So let’s look up some tips that will help you during wax play:
- Prepare your skin. You can use certain lotions and oil on the skin, which will make it easy to clean the wax off without any irritation. Shaving is good. Otherwise, cooled wax will create pain during peeling.
- You can’t use any candle for wax play. You need to choose the right ones. That candle over the coffee table won’t work. It is too hot, and it will cause burns on the skin. Massage candles work very well. Paraffin and soy candles can also be used.
- Don’t start without cleaning your room. Why? Because there might be flammable material around you that will spoil your fun. Alcohol, sprays, and other objects prone to catching fire quickly need to be removed from the vicinity. Also, keep fire extinguishing materials nearby for any accident.
- Now comes the play part. Keep it in the areas you find fun and experiment on different body parts to find what works for you and what doesn’t.
Any Safety Guidelines?
- Generally, you want the candle at least 15 inches away from the body.
- Be ready to blow to candle quickly if necessary.
- Communicate with your partner if the wax is giving you issues.
- Be sober; the sensations will numb you and can damage your body more than intended since you aren’t feeling as much pain.
Aftercare for wax play
You can apply aloe or unscented lotion on the areas where the wax has been dripped to smooth out the skin. Let the wax cool down, and then remove it. The same goes for sheets and other things.
Wipe yourself or each other with a wet cloth. Then, wash the residue in a warm shower with a gentle body wash.
Keep in mind that your first experience will be messy.
Tips & Techniques.
- Give a lotion breast massage to your partner before starting wax play. It’s good foreplay.
- Try dripping the wax on your wrist to test the heat before dripping any on your partner.
- Higher fall means more splatter, cover any areas your partner doesn’t want to get wax on
- Use a comb to remove wax from the body.
- Drip a layer of wax, then use a not-too-sharp knife to make a line through the crust. This knife play can be exciting.
- Kiss them while pouring wax on sensitive areas like the pubic region and stomach.
- Caress the skin while doing it. You can also tickle them by feather or fur.
- After the wax cools, lick the areas on the body nearby the wax.
- Have a first kit ready near the bed.
- Do not put the candle flame on the skin.
- Don’t put wax inside the belly button (I know you thought about it).
- Wax play is only for external play.
You can get the candles Master and i use for wax play here.
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