Polyamory is essentially having relationships with the foundational belief that you are able to love multiple people.
How do you know you are polyamorous? For some people, they notice an increasing interest in other people while they are with their monogamous partners. Others attempt things like open relationships and find that it’s a more manageable dynamic. However, it seems that polyamorous people find that some people don’t meet all of their needs, and they find those needs are met with other people.
Are poly people more likely to cheat? This is a trick question because people who are polygamous aren’t going to put themselves in monogamous positions. Someone who willingly enters a monogamous relationship, while knowing their own propensity to look elsewhere (aka cheat) is simply a shitty person.
Is polyamory something that works for everyone, given that they are willing to try it out? This is not for everyone. It doesn’t matter if you are a man or a woman, or anything else, it’s either for you or isn’t for you. Some people are able to work through jealousy, while others aren’t.
Regardless, people who are poly aren’t “more evolved” than monogamous people (that’s stupid). It’s either something that works for you or that doesn’t. Sometimes, it might be purely circumstantial because there’s nobody around that is a well-rounded package (this will always include yourself if that’s the case).
What is cheating in a polyamorous relationship? When there’s deception involved. Cheating means you are going behind your partner’s back for unfair gain. While having entanglements with other people isn’t inherently cheating in a poly relationship, it becomes cheating if you are lying about who or the means (if that’s something explicitly discussed as cheating with your poly partner).
How do you overcome jealousy in a poly relationship? With communication. Usually jealousy comes from feeling neglected and not feeling that your needs are going to be met. Over time you will “outgrow” jealousy as you live an experience where your partner always come back to you with their full attention, and without any loss of emotional or physical connection towards you.
That said, you can tell if whether you’re jealous or envious, based on the following:
- Jealousy points out what you want in life
- Envy is narcissisticly destructive and cultivates the mindset of “if I can’t have it, then no one can”
How do you deal with someone who cares more about having a deeper relationship with you than do with them? This is called “not being on the same page” and this difference in emotional landscape is what gets people hurt if it’s not made explicitly clear about where each person in the relationship is.
If either person can’t describe in words what they want or where they are at, this is called “lacking self-awareness”, and it’s the people who “know not what they do” that cause the biggest hurt in others. You may need to spend time away from each other until someone figures themselves out.
What are some poly dynamics?
| Polyamorous Dynamics | Description |
|---|---|
| Triads | Involves three people, either as separate individuals or mixed in various ways. |
| Quads | Involves four people, either as individuals or as two couples that play with each other. |
| V Relationship | One person is connected to two others that may also connect with one another. |
| Solo Polyamory | One person maintains separate relationships with multiple people. |
| Polycule | A mix of multiple people. |
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