Daddies are a type of Dominant that take a more “gentle, yet firm” approach to guiding their submissives.
Qualities of a Daddy
Being a Daddy is not necessarily specific to age or gender (see: Mommy).
Instead, being a Daddy is a state of mind and is relevant to the dynamic you have with your partner.
Since Daddies have a wise, mentor energy about them, you will see them advising their responsive littles in the best course of action.
Each little will respond differently, depending on their own temperament.
For example, my current girl is very sweet and responsive and considerate of all my words. Meanwhile, my brat in the past would ask me lots of questions and listen intently, but also demand lots of attention.
Although the title Daddy can be used as an honorific, it’s more commonly used as just a nickname that expresses a dynamic. It also doesn’t need to be sexual.
Daddies are often referred to as affectionate, caring, cuddling, reassuring, loving, wise, etc.
5 Types of Daddies
Here are the most common types of Daddies:
| Type of Daddy | Description |
|---|---|
| Soft Dom / Daddy Dom | Your typical Daddy who takes care of his sweetheart submissive or brat little. |
| Leather Daddy | A masculine-heavy Dominant with a kink fetish for leather goods. |
| Beef Daddy | A Dominant who has a muscular body, whether lean, bulky, or a formerly athletic “dad bod”. |
| Sugar Daddy | Typically an older gentleman with status and/or money who compensates a younger partner for favors. |
| Zaddy | A sexy, older man and is a phrase used by much younger women. |
How Does Status & Money Play Into Daddy Dynamics?
Dynamics involving Daddies doesn’t involve money. It’s a mindset and behavior roleplay.
Status isn’t a real factor either unless you are deeply, heavily involved with The Scene and are after an honorific.
Money is honestly only a real factor if you’re a Sugar Daddy, and you don’t even have to make more money than your purchased partner.
Remember, it’s the feelings and the things you do as a Daddy for your partner and relationship.
Generally speaking, Daddies do tend to be a bit older and have some experience, so partner’s may take a lot of comfort in that “Daddy energy”.
You can hear the term Daddy used in poly relationships where there is heavy emphasis on the moral value of “chosen family”.
What Do Daddies Want in BDSM?
That depends on the person and the relationship.
Some like the admiration, others want to be around a more youthful energy, maybe they’re looking to take care of someone.
Keep in mind that there is always some kind of generational gap in these relationships, so you may want to capitalize on that somehow.
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