In this post, we are going over tips on having FFM threesomes:
Tip #1: Use an app to seek out a third
You can use dating apps like Tinder to look for the femme that would complete the triad.
This means you can put up a picture of both you and your partner, and in your bio description be very upfront about what you’re both looking for.
Tip #2: Seeking a third in real-life
If you are going out to a club to find your third, make sure neither you or your partner are coming off too aggressively.
Since one of you is already a femme, it’s likely that you are actually the one who is being a bit too pushy with the strangers you’re trying to induct.
That said, it makes sense that you both come up to the third person as a couple as opposed to “hiding” a partner and surprising the potential third later on.
I’d like to mention that it is actually easier for the guy to make the initial approach on the third, and soon introduce their partner to see if things go anywhere
On the other hand, if you are that unicorn third person, then you should already have your own boundaries in place in how you want to conduct yourself and vet the couple who are staking you out.
NOTE: You always want to clearly communicate with this third person what you’re looking for and make sure they are consenting to the threesome.
Tip #3: Grab the third person’s phone number
There’s a solid chance you both aren’t going to get the lay that night. So instead, opt for getting the femme’s number and set up a date for the three of you to get a chance to know each other better.
It’s good that both femmes involved reach an understanding where they won’t let any hard feelings or insecurities manifest—such as no intention for partner poaching, and that the coupled femme is given assurance that nothing will go wrong.
Tip #4: Find out the lowest level common comfort everyone is okay with having with one another
This means that you look to see where the most chemistry is happening and where the least chemistry is happening.
Wherever the least chemistry is happening, make that the baseline among the three of you. Work you way up from there.
Again, during this date is the time to sort of see what light touches are okay, and see how subtle or dirty the flirting gets.
Tip #5: At home, bring everyone to the couch or bed
After the date, when you all come home, it’s best to go to the couch or bed to relax together.
During this time you all will have more conversation and naturally touch each other. You’ll notice that the touching increases as time passes—from hand-holding to kissing to woohoo.
Let things unfold and the threesome will happen if it’s meant to happen.
Tip #6: You can ditch the plans before getting home
Not only is the date a way to vet the unicorn, but the transition time between the date venue and home also serves as a get-out-of-jail free card for all parties.
This means that if either you or your partner get cold feet, you can abort mission. The same goes for your unicorn.
Tip #7: Bring the third into the intimacy
When one of you from the couple start making out with either your partner or the unicorn, one of you must reach out to bring in the third.
It’s fairly common for both femme people in the threesome to get carried away with each other things get rolling.
This is why it’s important to always pull the third person into the action so that there’s no one feeling lost in the threesome.
Tip #8: Best Positions for FFM Threesomes
It’s best that everyone is facing each other as much as possible.
This means that an MFF Doggy Style-Eating Out is not a good position because everyone is faced away from each other.
Instead it’s better to be in positions like FMF Dick Riding-Face Sitting.
Other good positions are MFF masc eating out both femmes while they make out.
Or FFM where both women are giving the masc oral and making out with each other.
If there are toys that allow for pegging, there are more sexual options to explore.
If both women are strictly hetero, then the women will take turns on different parts of the man’s body. This can mean rotating between hands, penis, mouth, etc.
BONUS TIP: Make Everyone Orgasm
Everyone can orgasm by having two people make one person orgasm, then taking turns until everyone has had theirs.
Threesome Orgasm Order Etiquette:
- Unicorn Third orgasms first; this makes things less awkward since the couple are going to inherently have a connection
- Male orgasms second; penis-owners tend to get very tired post-orgasm
- Primary Femme orgasms last; the best person to end strong with
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