Crying Fetish: Why is it hot when they cry?

A Crying Fetish is when someone is aroused when someone is sobbing or crying.

For some, this means they get turned on by being made to cry. Meanwhile, for others like myself, we get turned on by seeing someone cry.

But I can tell you personally that being turned on by crying doesn’t mean you get turned on by anyone’s waterworks.

Why People Get Turned On When Others Cry

While I’m sure there are people who get turned on by anyone crying, I personally only get turned on when someone I’m attracted to cries.

However, that doesn’t mean that I like their pain, and I’m definitely not a sadist. If I had to put my finger on it, I like it when women I’m attracted to cry because:

  1. The emotional vulnerability they are sharing
  2. There’s something sexy-trashy about a woman’s makeup getting messed up by a flow of tears

And there’s a reason why people cry. When people cry it’s signalling to others that they are distressed and it’s a call for help from others “in the tribe”. So there is an evolutionary component to why crying is so attention-grabbing in the first place.

There is nothing more powerful than a baby’s cry. You can be at work, in church, outside, wherever, and the moment you hear a baby cry, you’re ears will perk up. A baby’s cry commands attention, intuitively your own inner child knows the importance of keeping the inner self safe. Practically, it helps us keep the human species alive.

But as a healthy adult, crying in front of others inspires compassion, empathy, and care. You can usually see this reflected in Mommy Doms and Soft Dom sorts of relationships.

People who are disgusted by this level of vulnerability are people who are disgusted by their own human weaknesses.

Similar to how I like the sexy-trashy look on women who are crying off their makeup, it turns out that people also like how the face looks during crying. This means the sniffling noses, teary eyes, frownie faces, and shivering lips.

And of course, some people like hurting causing pain to others or the power dynamic where they feel more powerful over someone who is “weak” and crying.

Why People Enjoy Crying

Certain types of masochists enjoy crying.

Also since culture doesn’t allow men to have full range of emotions, since they don’t want to disqualify themselves from the little attention they get from the women they can attract, they tend to repress their more “feminine qualities”.

Similar to how some men use sissification to give themselves a chance to dress like women, by engaging in other forms of emotional masochism he is able to get the much needed catharsis that comes from crying.

We cry when we are most powerless in a situation. This is part of the grieving process. You can learn more about the importance of crying and grieving here, so you see the benefit of allowing yourself to build a stronger relationship with that emotion.

How To Make Your Partner Cry

If you’re satisfied with crocodile tears, then consider acting or cutting onions.

If you’re looking to get real, emotional-filled tears, try out the following:

Regardless, make sure you perform aftercare appropriately since this will be an emotionally intense experience.

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