Many people believe bed bondage is much more complicated than it really is. But in actuality, it’s fairly simple.
To start off, you need four ropes at 15ft. Each for every limb (that’s your arms and legs).
Figure out the strongest parts of your bed. Does it have a sturdy headboard? Are the posts or legs steady? This way you know where you can tie the rope.
If your bed isn’t very sturdy it might move when you’re playing out the scene. For some people, it might be too bothersome.
The workaround is the “under-the-bed” approach. Where you get two ropes under and across your mattress, with the desired knots on each end.
In general, you will have your partner spread out in the middle of the bed. The idea is that every arm and leg is stretched out towards one of the corner posts of the bed.
Easy Bondage Knot Ties
Zip Snare Knot
Single Column Knot
Cat’s Paw Knot
However you tie up your partner, make sure they are unable to free themselves (unless that’s a desired safety measure).
Why do people like bondage?
Being tied down makes people feel vulnerable, so any sensations they feel are amplified.
Bondage is great for edging, tickle torture, teasing, punishment, etc.
3 Bondage Safety Measures
Can the restrained person move at all? If they can’t move at all, then chances are they are in a really strained position.
Are they faced downwards? Make sure they can breathe, no matter the position you put them in.
Make sure they have circulation. This means they can breathe are and their appendages can pump blood.
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DOM SUB 101 teaches you essential basic and advanced BDSM concepts, such as DomSpeak, power exchange, finding a partner, poly jealousy, primal play, contracts, worksheets and so on.
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