What is the perfect penis size for women? This depends on a woman’s personal anatomy. Essentially, the perfect size for a man, is a woman who is the perfect match anatomically. For example, every vagina gets aroused at different intensities, has periods at different times of the month, and has different depths. The average depth […]

Sex parties today are gatherings that fall somewhere between a full-out orgy and a crazy rave warehouse party. Make sure you get tested on a regular basis if your sex life is “sex party active”. Where do you find a sex party? Usually through word of mouth by friends and people you know or online […]

A Pleasure Dom, or Pleasure Dominant, is a person who enjoys pleasing their submissive counterpart sexually. The phrase seemed to be coined around the time of the Covid-19 pandemic in 2020 by social media like TikTok. 4 Ways of Pleasure Domming There appears to be four primary techniques involved in pleasure Domming: The Pleasure Dom […]

Cock Rings are sex toys that the male puts onto either his cock or his cock and balls for sexual enhancement. Honestly, there isn’t too much to say about cock rings. They are pretty straightforward in how and why they are used. Why do people use cock rings? People use cock rings for the following […]

Mastering wax play entails navigating the nuances of candle wax temperatures, materials, and methods to create a personalized and safe sensory experience. Not all wax burns at the same temperature. The ideal range for candle wax to burn is between 110F and 130F. People who have higher tolerance for hotter wax temperatures will tend to […]

Understand that rope bondage is inherently risky and can only be performed at a reduced risk, never risk-free. It’s not uncommon to run into fake doms or fake subs who are misrepresenting their skill level and experience in the kink community. However, this is found even more often in the bondage sphere of the community. […]

Vibrators are versatile tools designed to enhance sexual pleasure through various forms of stimulation. Whether used solo or with a partner, vibrators offer a customizable and enjoyable experience that can add excitement and intimacy to your sex life. Benefits of Vibrators With so much focus on penetrative sex, people are neglecting all the pleasure that […]

Furries are individuals who are part of the Furry Fandom, a community that celebrates anthropomorphic animal characters and art by dressing up as them. The Furry Fandom is a diverse and inclusive space where people express themselves through their unique fursonas, embracing a sense of imaginative freedom and connection with like-minded individuals. Furries vs Fursuiters […]

Here we will discuss how to actually take care of your Dominant and help them feel respected and loved as a person (not some tool). While many submissives think that the services and physicality are all the Dominant needs, there’s also the reality that your Dominant doesn’t feel so connected or even seen. An example […]

Maintenance Spankings are used to reiterate the dynamics and roles in a relationship while ensuring the submissive that the Dominant is engaged. Not all dynamics participate in maintenance spankings. Some dynamics find that it doesn’t work for them and instead used alternative ways to express maintenance. Maintenance spankings are usually set up a day of […]

There are many ways you can define a sadist, or even masochist, depending on context. So for the sake of simplicity—you can describe a sadist here as “a person who enjoys affecting another person”. In this post, we specifically explore emotional sadism, which would be “the act of affecting another person emotionally and getting satisfaction and/or arousal […]

In this post, we go over how to have a threesome. We talk about a few “stages” that will allow this to happen as smoothly, and non-traumatizing as possible. You can also check out our post on MMF Threesomes. Before the Threesome Before the threesome are the conversations that take place before any form of […]

In this post, we are going over tips on having FFM threesomes: Tip #1: Use an app to seek out a third You can use dating apps like Tinder to look for the femme that would complete the triad. This means you can put up a picture of both you and your partner, and in […]

The idea of giving someone an orgasm is ideally a selfless act. And when it comes to sexuality, many find that an orgasm is the pinnacle of sex. Because people are so preoccupied with getting their partner to orgasm, they end up feeling disappointed in themselves when they can’t quite get their partner to finish. […]

You will find that there are many fake dominants and submissives online who only claim to be kink-informed in order to get sexual favors out of others. However, you’ll find that many fake submissives are not so much intentionally lying, but are instead confused about what submission is in the kink community. Here are some […]

Polyamory is an umbrella term that means to engage in relationships that involve more than one person. This means that all people involved are all aware and consenting to the relationships going with among their partners. The various relationships can involve emotional, sexual, mental, spiritual, and romantic aspects in varying degrees. Which can mean that […]

In the BDSM community, a collaring ceremony is celebration of a very high-level, lifestyle commitment between an s-type and a D-type. This is unlike most wearers who adorn a collar merely for aesthetic reasons, putting their subby-ness on display, or for the purposes of a scene. Self-Collaring is a symbolic gesture where somebody is making […]

A Wedgie Fetish is where an individual is aroused by watching, giving, or experiencing a wedgie. Why Do People Like Wedgies? The two biggest factors seem to be pain play and humiliation. A common roleplay scenario would involve “bullying”, where the Dominant would be the bully and the submissive would be the victim. Another roleplay […]

Medical Play is an umbrella term that refers to either (1) a form of roleplay or (2) a skillset using medical tools for a scene. Roleplay Medical Play typically involves a scene of where someone is a patient or a medical professional/scientist, etc. This type of scene may involve “doctor’s office” sensations; cold tables, latex scent, medical […]

In this post, we go over the nutritional value of semen, the importance of semen hormones, how long semen takes to create, the basis for “soul ties”, along with spiritual and relationship insight. What is the Nutritional Value of Semen? Serving Size 1 tablespoon Calories <30 Calories from Fat 0 Total Carbohydrates 300mg —Sugars 300mg […]

Bratting is where one person likes expressing sassy behavior to get a reaction out of their partner. These bratting behaviors include: Why Do People Like Being Bratty? Being bratty in terms of play, is a means of testing how secure your relationship is with your partner. If you are allowed to act out without being […]

Here are seven tips for someone who is going to a sex convention and/or dungeon for their first time: Don’t expect to do get to everything on the schedule. My first convention was DOMCON and although I wanted to attend all the workshops, much of them are happening simultaneously and overlapping. This bugged me and […]

Vabbing is when a woman scoops up vaginal secretion with their hand and dabbing it on points of the body where hormones are known to secrete. This includes behind the ears and the wrists. This cultural phenomena comes from the idea of using one’s own pheromones to attract partners. Despite certain influencers and guest speakers […]

A remote-controlled vibrator is a sex toy that can be used for discreet public thrill. You can use this with your partner for unique in-person teasing or long-distance fun. Here are our tips and tricks for making the most out of remote control vibrators: Find a Quality Remote Vibrator You want to make sure you […]

Financial Domination, or FinDom, is a form of power exchange where one partner has all financial power over the other. Ethical Financial Domination An example of financial domination is where the Dominant is financially providing for their submissive, who lives at home and does no work to provide for the home. The Dominant gets the […]

Small Penis Humiliation (SPH) is where a penis owner is humiliated and riduculed for their penis measurement. This form of humiliation largely revolves around the idea that the penis owner has an unworthy penis. One way this is done is by grabbing a ruler and physically measuring the penis and consensually laughing at the penis […]

Toxicity, or “being toxic”, is modern culture’s way of calling something immature and very problematic. The BDSM Kink community is meant to be a safe space where people can express themselves without being judged for any non-typical interests or peculiarities. That said, this community is very inclusive towards a very diverse range of groups of […]

Bastinado is a form of foot torture, or Falaka, that involves the act of inflicting damage by beating on the soles of someone’s feet. Bastinado is usually inflicted by using a cane, or similar toy, to repeatedly give impact against the bottom of another person’s feet as it gradually becomes swollen. Why do people like […]

In this post, we go over some feng shui tips you can use to bring sexy energy into the bedroom. Feng Shui is an Ancient Chinese philosophy that is a continuous, long-term practice that will help move you in a direction to improve your inner and outer life. Feng Shui is creating an intentional space for yourself. […]

Polyamory is essentially having relationships with the foundational belief that you are able to love multiple people. How do you know you are polyamorous? For some people, they notice an increasing interest in other people while they are with their monogamous partners. Others attempt things like open relationships and find that it’s a more manageable […]

Fetlife is a social media platform for all things kinky. This is not a dating website. You can check out out old post How To Get Into The BDSM Community & Fetlife As A Beginner. How do people use Fetlife? Nowadays, people log into Fetlife to check up on events in their area, maybe interact […]

A Himbo is a man, or male counterpart, that is lovable, cuddly, attractive, buff, and most of all—dumb. A himbo is the male equivalent to a bimbo in bimbofication, despite being largely different. Essentially, they are physically attractive but gullible men. This includes being incredibly affectionate, gullible, and naive. Examples of himbos include: In the […]

Bimbofication is a form of play where someone is transformed into a hypersexualized object for other people’s pleasure. This form of play is very similar to dollification. However, in dollification, there is a power exchange between Maker and doll. The Maker can order their doll to act and look any way they want, that isn’t […]

Facesitting is when someone is lying back and their partner is straddling their face with their genitals over or in the other’s mouth. This is also referred to as “kinging” and “queening”. Smothering is facesitting but with sexual suffocation involved using genitalia and buttocks. This can be considered a form of erotic asphyxiation. This is […]

Figging is putting a piece of ginger into someone’s vagina or anus. Figging originated as “feaging” and it was the practice of inserting ginger, or similar irritant, into a horse for a more youthful demeanor. In BDSM terms, figging is a masochistic form of play where the peeled ginger gradually bothers the person who has […]

A MMF Threesome is a sexual three-way intercourse between two males and one female. If you are a woman who wants to experience a MMF threesome, the first thing you want to do is talk to your male partner about it. Keep in mind that it seems that the immature male ego can be very […]

In this post, we will be going over the different types of sadists you will find in BDSM along with their motivations. Before we get into things, I want to point out that not all forms of sadism involve taking pleasure in pain. Instead, think of sadism as taking pleasure in affecting others. That said, let’s […]

A Crying Fetish is when someone is aroused when someone is sobbing or crying. For some, this means they get turned on by being made to cry. Meanwhile, for others like myself, we get turned on by seeing someone cry. But I can tell you personally that being turned on by crying doesn’t mean you […]

Bloodplay is form of play that involves drawing blood, cutting, or other means of releasing blood within the realm of consent and risk-awareness. Bloodplay can be very intense, intimate, and is one of the more riskier forms of BDSM play that can sometimes be lethal without the correct guidance. Why Do People Like Bloodplay? Bloodplay […]

A Biting Fetish is where someone gets sexual satisfaction by biting someone or getting bitten. Sexual Vampirism is where someone likes to bite with the intention of drawing blood. People like biting and getting bit because it just feels good and it’s an easy way of expressing sadomasochism in the bedroom. We also like it […]

Vampirism, or Vampire Roleplay, is where on person takes on the role of a vampire while others are victims or something relevant. Vampirism can be considered a type of primal play mixed with a form of feederism or bloodplay, where one person gets to express themselves shamelessly as a monster that cannibalizes on other human […]

Blanket Consent is a term used to describe the act of giving absolute consent to a partner for all things going forward. This means that consent is assumed from then on until stated otherwise. Whereas normally, you’d need to get consent on a “scene-to-scene” basis. Therefore, giving someone your blanket consent is similar to establishing […]

Extreme Kinks are what’s considered riskier play, based on the preferences of the people involved. When you think of extreme kinks, we want to consider the acronym RACK, where everyone is aware of the risks and consenting to the given kink. That said, in a world where everyone is vanilla, everything kink-related would be extreme. […]

In this post, we go over the relationships dynamics that go on between stags, bulls, and vixens in BDSM. A Vixen is a woman who dates and has sex with other men (known as bulls) with encouragement and the fully aware consent of their committed partner (aka stag). This is not cheating or a cuckold relationship, where the stag […]

A Mommy Dom is a Dominant maternal role in a D/s, or similar, dynamic. This type of relationship very closely aligns with CGL, and will use abbreviations like MD/l for Mommy Dom / little. Mommy Doms are generally nurturing caregivers that are kind, patient, and attentive. Depending on the MD, they can have an edge of their own […]

Collar Blindness is when someone is willing to do anything it takes to attain a collar, without taking time to self-reflect and determine if one actually wants the responsibilities it inherent to it. A collar is an earned symbol of one’s commitment and devotion to a BDSM relationship. This is highly revered in the BDSM community, the same […]

Polyamory is a form of non-monogamous relationships where you have multiple partners each with their own various degrees of different types of intimacy. You are essentially dating multiple people, and those people are dating others as well. Speaking for myself, you could say I’ve had experience in polyamory. I’d sleep with, play, and hang out with […]

In this post, we will be going over the different types of masochists you will find in BDSM along with their motivations. Before we get into things, I want to point out that not all forms of masochism involve taking pleasure in pain. Instead, think of masochism as taking pleasure in being affected. That said, […]

Dollification is a roleplay where a doll is dressed up, physically and mentally, to fit the image ordered by their Maker. The doll is typically a submissive who is being controlled to portray themselves in a way that pleases their dominant Maker. This form of play is similar to CGL and DDlg that you will enjoy if you like the following: Types of Dolls […]

In this lesson, we will teach you how to use the five love languages and apply them to your sex life. Words of Affirmation This is easily played out in Praise Kink where you reward your partner for doing a good job or by worshipping physical attractiveness and body parts, such as: You can also send kinky text messages to […]

Here is a quick step-by-step guide to making a kinky homemade BDSM video. Step 1: Pick your roleplay and outfits What are you and anyone else involved going to wear on-screen? When you’re playing out a scene with your partner, you both are aware of the sensations you are both sharing with each other. However, […]

Damsel In Distress Roleplay is a form of scene that allows players to get in touch with their inner damsel or inner knight in shining armor. A damsel is a non-wise, innocent woman, who is helpless and incapable of taking care of oneself. If psychological terms, this is a woman who still doesn’t know herself, her boundaries, or how […]

A Breeding Kink is getting turned on by the act of impregnating or getting impregnated. This is easily my favorite kink. Before I knew anything about BDSM or kinks or fetishes, I have always thought it was hot when a woman was ovulating and I could put my nut in her. I remember learning about a woman’s […]

Sissification, or Sissy Play, is a roleplay for men who want to humiliated through feminization and dressing like a woman. It makes sense that sissy play would be considered sexist because it implies that being a woman is a lesser form of being—however, this form of play is the opposite. Despite it being a form of […]

Feet Worship, or Foot Fetish, is a when someone is sexually aroused by feet and is willing to ravish them. This is one of the most popular fetishes in the world. Most of these fetishists being me. Why do people like feet? People like feet for a variety of reasons that can be both either conscious […]

Ball Busting is the act of inflicting pain on a player’s testicles. This can include: hitting, slapping, kicking, and squishing the testicles. Ball busting is considered a form of CBT, or Cock + Ball Torture. This is not for everyone. For example, I’m already cringing and squeamish at the thought of my balls being tampered with […]

Impact Play is a form of erotic play that involves getting hit in a consensual manner. Why do people like impact play? Many people, like myself, like the endorphin rush that brings in a nice high. There is also a sense of building a bond with your partner by allowing them to give you this high […]

SSC is short-hand for Safe, Sane & Consensual, which is a fundamental value in the BDSM Community. This value was established to help distinguish consensual sadomasochism from abuse and unlawful violence. SAFE means that you will identify all risks and prevent actual harm from occuring. SANE means that you must approach BDSM practices from the mindset that everyone can […]

Hanky Code is a way to identify interests among members of the Community. Color Meaning Black Sadomasochism Blue Anal penetration Brown satin Knife play, cutting Dark green Daddy/boy player Grey Bondage Lavender Drag queens Light pink Dildos Lime green Let’s get dinner Red Fisting White Masturbation, handjobs Yellow Water sports Color Meaning Beige Military Charcoal gray […]

Breathplay is erotic play where you restrict airflow and blood flow to the brain. This is a common form of play that is used to enhance sex and orgasmic experiences. This is because breathplay can make you feel lightheaded and physically stimulated when you’re brain isn’t getting as much oxygen as usual. Many consider breathplay to […]

A mouth gag is something you put in somebody’s mouth to give them a sense of restriction and/or bondage. People like wearing gags because it puts them in a different headspace where they can feel vulnerable. Others like to gag their partners because they find it sexy hearing their partner moan and drool for them. Types of […]

In this post, we briefly go over five tips for subbing: Topping from the bottom is something that Tops like on occasion, but find annoying over time. Bottoms tend to do this to serve their own needs. Tops tend not to like this because they want the experience to be mutually pleasureable. Although it can be […]

Here is a brief post on hair fetish and shave play. Types of Hair Fetish Type of Fetish Description Trichophilia A fetish for hair, including the smell, texture, and appearance. Depilation A fetish for the removal of hair, either for the feeling of cleanliness or for the emasculation factor. Trichophilia is easily the sexualization of […]

Cuckolding, or Candaulism, is being aroused by witnessing your partner having sex with another person and being aroused by giving your partner to someone else to use sexually, respectively. An example of this is a husband letting another man use his wife because he finds it arousing, or a wife getting aroused by the idea of […]

Eating Out, or Rimming, is giving pleasure to someone’s anus with your face. First and foremost, tell your partner you want to eat ass or you want your ass eaten. The ass eater must consider the depth and speed that their tongue is going to town on their receiver’s ass, while making sure they are comfortable. […]

Puppy Play is a form of animal roleplay where players act like canines during a scene. There can be a Handler human who is in charge of the puppy play. Puppy play is NOT bestiality. Why do people like puppy play? Well it’s a wholesome good time when you consider that puppies are carefree animals that are always […]

Puppy Play is a form of animal roleplay where players act like canines during a scene. Types of Pups and Roles A role helps a person define what they need to do in a scene. When it comes to puppy play, the pups are typically in a submissive role in relation to their Handler or Owner. […]

Puppy Play is a form of animal roleplay where players act like canines during a scene. How to get into puppy play? Well, you actually make a genuine effort in the animal roleplay. Get on all fours, crawl around, and make some barking noises. This way you can get yourself into the headspace, or at least […]

In this post, we go over readers’ questions about puppy play: Puppy Play is a form of animal roleplay where players act like canines during a scene. Can couples puppy play without Handlers? Yes. You don’t need Handler(s) if your play doesn’t call for one. Is pup play sexual? No, it doesn’t always have to be sexual. But […]

Animal Roleplay, or Pet Play, is where a person acts as an animal in a BDSM scene. Different Types of Animal Roleplay Pup Play is when a player(s) act as a canine. This can involve familial hiearchies like Alpha, Beta, Gamma, Omega, etc. Collars can indicate relationships between players. Kitten Play involves player(s) acting as felines. This can […]

Edging is getting your partner to the point of nearly orgasming then suddenly stopping. You are essentially maintaining arousal and teasing your partner for extended periods of time. Sexual Denial like this increases anticipation and leads to more powerful loads of ejaculation. More words that are synonymous to edging is orgasm control, delayed gratification, sexual […]

In this post, we go over ways you can manage and balance your kinky life with your day-to-day. Feel free to skip forward, but I want to quickly talk about something— To preface, let’s make sure you understand the difference between escapism and reality. Escapism is indulging in fantasy while getting away from the real […]

Negotiation is important when it comes to sex in kink play, especially when it comes to consent. This involves disclosing your sexual orientiation, gender, who will be the Top, the bottom, and so on (we’ll get more into this). Having more information gives you more understanding and control of the situation. Important Tips for Newbies […]

Mummification is a form of bondage where someone is fully or partially wrapped like a mummy. This leaves the wrapped person immobilized for the duration of the scene. Mummification is a form of advanced bondage involves wrapping someone in any of the following materials: Why Do People Like Mummification? If you like to wrap yourself in […]

Aftercare is the process of soothing a person after sharing a scene. Why Aftercare is Important Scenes can take the mind and body for a surprise, causing an endorphin high that inevitably comes crashing down. Aftercare is intended to ease a person down from their endorphin high, in an effort to prevent any drops from happening. […]

Hands-Free Orgasms are getting off without playing with your genitals. HFO’s (Hands-Free Orgasms) can happen by means of electric toys, mental stimulation, and stimulating other parts of the body. This would naturally mean manifesting an incredulous orgasm by having the captivating religious experience of sticking something up your butt. In other words— Anal play for your prostate […]

Tickle Fetish is getting pleasure from someone’s squirming caused by tickling. Tickle Torture is the most blatant expression of sadomasochism since the Tickler gets satisfaction for causing discomfort to the Ticklee, who is perversely enjoying it. How responsive you are to being tickled is largely based on surprise. This means that if you’re caught by surprise, you will have a […]

In this post, we talk about how to have long distance kinky relationships. Understand that since you and your partner aren’t together very often, every text message, Facetime, etc, is very valuable. But it’s much better to use video chat like Zoom or Facetime because text messages are very easy to misinterpret, and the last […]

In this post, we briefly go over some readers’ questions on rubber: How to prevent rubber from irritating sensitive skin or hairy areas? Use lube or shower to help with irritation. How long does a person typically wear rubber? You can wear your rubber for a very long time, as if it’s regular apparel. How long does […]

Furries are those who like to express themselves via dressing up as anthropomorphic animal characters. These are typically not specific characters from mainstream media. Characters just refer to the outfit and persona a furry player is presenting and embodying. Furry Fandom is the furry community, and is also referred to as the Fur Fandom, Furdom, Furrydom, and […]

Red Flags are signals that a person is not healthy or safe to have a certain level of relationship with because of highly potential problems. In regular dating, you’ve probably been interested in someone with a lot of red flags but ignored them because of the dopamine high they were giving you or your own willful […]

Here are some frequently asked questions for submissives: What does being a submissive mean? How does this relate to sub and Dom relationships? Being submissive is the act of consensually giving your submission to someone. Gifting your submission to someone can mean allowing someone to tell you what to do and put you in states […]

Here are some frequently asked questions for Dominants: What is a Dominant, Dom, and Domme? The Dominant is someone who takes control in the power dynamic or relationship. They are generally a Top, but not always. Shorthand for Dominant are the words Dom and Domme, which can be used to differentiate between male-identifying and female-identifying players. What are the most […]

Daddies are a type of Dominant that take a more “gentle, yet firm” approach to guiding their submissives. Qualities of a Daddy Being a Daddy is not necessarily specific to age or gender (see: Mommy). Instead, being a Daddy is a state of mind and is relevant to the dynamic you have with your partner. Since […]

In this post, we talk about how to bring sex toys into your relationship. For starters, you want to bring sex toys for both you and your partner’s benefit—make sure they know that. Your partner needs to know that introducing toys into the bedroom is not at their expense. This means you need to consider […]

Here are some reader’s questions about pet play: What is Pet Play? Pet Play is a roleplay where you are in the headspace of an animal. Some types of pet play include: Puppy Play, Pony Play, Kitten Play, etc. How to Start Pet Play Start researching different types of pet play and pick the animal or […]

Here are some reader’s questions for pet players: What is Pet Play? Pet Play is a roleplay where you are in the headspace of an animal. Some types of pet play include: Puppy Play, Pony Play, Kitten Play, Dragon Play, etc. Why do people like Pet Play? Animals can have a carefree and more loving nature […]

Age Play is roleplay where there players regress and act a different age. This is not pedophilia. There are only consenting adults involved with this play. Types of Littles & Age Players The following are the types of littles that age players may regress to, based on the regressed age range: Age Range Little, Middle, or […]

Looning is using an inflateable fetish for kinky fun. Looners are festishists who have a sexual interest in balloons, rubbery items, rubber balls, and other inflatable items. Why People Like Looning When it comes to balloons, there’s an excitement knowing that the balloon might pop. This popping anxiety comes with its own surge of dopamine, especially when […]

Hypno Play, or Erotic Hypnosis, is the use of hypnosis and subliminal suggestion in a kinky consensual context. How does erotic hypnosis actually work? While many people are initially skeptical of hypno play, since it’s largely a guided meditation—it is done in a way where you are given a suggestible state to get into. Erotic hypnosis […]

Feederism, or Food Play, is an eating kink about affecting the body with food. This involves eating, inserting, or being around food in a sexual or power dynamic context. Food Play Terms Term Definition Encourager/Feeder The person giving the food (Top) Gainer/Feedee The person eating the food (bottom) Ball Belly The belly shape people may be […]

Electro Play is using electricity for sensation play. Many people think that this is a vibration play, but there is actual electrical pulses being used to stimulate either your skin or muscles. It generally feels like being buzzed, ticklish, tingly, or stingy. Electro play is can be used in combination with some restraint. This is NOT […]

Cigar Play, or Ash Play, is a form of play that uses cigars. Why People Like Cigar Play People like the aroma, taste, and aesthetic of cigars. There’s also a masculine aspect to smoking cigars, as well as a phallic appearance. How to Smoke a Cigar You inhale a cigar differently than how you smoke a […]

Here are some green flags to look for when you meet someone who is interested in kink or the BDSM community: When they treat you more than your kink. It’s a good sign when someone treats you like a whole human being who happens to be into kink. Otherwise, it just seems like the person only wants to […]

Kitty Play is a type of pet play that involves feline roleplay. How To Kitten Roleplay Kitten play is a form of animal roleplay that is similar to puppy play and pony play. For kittens, some players like to dress up in an outfit while others may keep it simple and put on kitty ears, furry […]

Here are some tips on how to travel kinky, pack kinky, and some tips for playing in a hotel room. How to Pack Kinky It’s smart to pack things by space and weight. For example, some heavier things to pack would be boots and leather outfit pieces. You want to keep the hefty items to […]

Adult Baby Diaper Lovers is a role play where there is an Adult Baby player and Diaper Lover players. Infantilism is when adults regress to a child-like demeanor with a headspace where you forget your adult troubles and enjoy binkies, children’s movies, naps, and so on. This is not pedofilia. Adult Babies will prefer to act out different […]

Chastity Play is a form of sexual denial. How to Chastity Play in BDSM What is the intention for this session with chastity play? The Dom decides how long their sub is locked up, and if or when the sub climaxes. What cage are you using for this chastity play? There are two cage types: Belts and Cages. […]

In this post, we talk about “cleaning out” your anus and rectum for anal sex. 6 Quick Steps for Cleaning Out Your Ass First, you want to poop. Free your bowels while you can and so you can start cleaning out. Next, get an enema or douche. Do not use the saline laxitive or you’ll get diahria. […]

Everyone’s butt is as different as their thumbprints, meaning we all have our likes and dislikes when it comes to butt stuff. What is a butt plug? Buttplugs are sex toys that are very similar to the dildo except they are shorter and have a base to keep from going too far in while also making […]

Many people believe bed bondage is much more complicated than it really is. But in actuality, it’s fairly simple. To start off, you need four ropes at 15ft. Each for every limb (that’s your arms and legs). Figure out the strongest parts of your bed. Does it have a sturdy headboard? Are the posts or […]

Pony Play is a type of animal role play that involves control, restriction, dominance, gear, etc. Folks with a preference for pony play, instead of puppy play or something similar, may prefer ponies or horses because there is a more majestic essence or appreciation for a livestock freeness to the animal. What’s are the differences between […]

Watersports are a form a play involving urine. It usually involves “golden showers” (somebody getting peed on), drinking pee, peeing in someone’s cavity, etc. Why do people like watersports? Here are three reasons why people like watersports. Intimacy by sharing bodily fluids. Similar to swapping spit or penile/vaginal fluids, some people consider urine to be another mark […]

Wax Play is dripping wax on yourself and/or others. Wax Play is considered fire Temperature Play and even Edge Play because of its painful and stimulating sensations. 3 Ways to Perform Wax Play Use the temperature of the candle. For example, you can bring the candle near the bottom’s genitals. This is to increase suspense and tension before getting into the […]

Let’s start by saying that “squirt” that comes from squirting and female ejaculate are not the same thing. Female ejaculate comes from stimulating the G-spot and can have a subtle ammonia-like scent. The subtle ammonia scent is due to antibody excretion to help the body against UTIs. This means that women who have female ejaculation may […]

Collars can symbolize a person’s devoted relationship or status to another kink player. Generally, collars show the power dynamic relationship between Dominants and subs, or Masters and slaves, etc. The submissive or slave, or other bottom, is the person who will wear the collar. What do collars mean in BDSM? In the community, wearing an earned […]

The following are 5 tips of pro domme advice for couples: Prepare your partner mentally beforehand. Talk about what you and your partner will do with each other in the bedroom. This is more likely done over text instead of in-person. While some people will say it kills the “surprise”, what you’re really doing is building […]

Erotic Humiliation is the act of being humiliated as part of psychological play in order to experience arousal. It’s using those things that make you emotionally uncomfortable and exploring them in a safe and erotic way. Degradation takes the humiliation much further, where the bottom is then made to lean into their humilation through some action. For […]

Here are three tips on how to have the rough sex you want: Understand that rough sex is a mature thing to ask for. People get confused when their partner asks for rough sex because they “don’t want to hurt you”. However, when it comes to love, people arent looking to get hurt but still […]

Sex Dolls is an adult-sized doll that is full of holes and orifices for the user to penetrate. They can be blow-up, silicone, etc, and depending on the material, you will want to use lube. Sex dolls can be very customizable. The more money spent, the more it can be customized. If you are looking to […]

There is no shame is having erectile dysfunction. Because if you have a body, you will have a bodily dysfunction at some point in time—it’s normal. The following are a few tips on how to help cure erectile dysfunction: Stop smoking – Smoking damages arteries that flow blood to the penis, which you need for strong […]

Primal Play is expressing your honest sexuality via your most basic emotional instincts, or primal intincts. Put it this way, the ultimate reason why you don’t do something you want to do is shame. Shame and fear of being judged is why you shy away from your most honest desires—it’s not a liberated headspace in any way. […]

In this post, we’ll quickly go over four sources of sexual anxiety and orgasm anxiety, along with some tips to help reduce it. First, you need to figure out if this is sexual anxiety or regular anxiety. Sexual anxiety can be related about body image and that exposure prevents them from enjoying physical intimacy. Many people […]

FetLife is a website that has many international events where kink players can join at local dungeons or other open public locale. Fetlife is also a community based platform that you can use to see what kind of kinksters are around your area that you can potentially join. You can also use FetLife to find munches, […]

Does size matter? Yes and no. Whether size matter definitely depends on the woman. When you are dealing with shallow women, yes it matters. The same way a shallow man doesn’t give a damn about a woman’s personality, but instead only cares about her tits and ass. If you are dealing with mature and relatively […]

Here are five tips to help fix female sexual anxiety: You deserve your jollies. Whether its with solo play or with a partner. You are worth recieving pleasure and not just giving it. It’s a birthright. Your body deserves your confidence. Bodies come in different shapes and sizes. Attraction is not based on what advertisers tell you. […]

Here are some of the best positions for a woman to orgasm according to a sex therapist. Riding on Top – She can control depth and also move in a way that will let her hit the angles she wants for maximum pleasure. Doggy Style – Specifically when she is kneeling on the bed and he is […]

The A-Spot is not the G-spot and is located further into the vagina. It is still being researched and although is may exist, it’s not necessary for pleasure. The A-spot is located two to four inches into the vagina on the front wall. Which is 5cm to 10cm deep. Not every woman can experience pleasure from the […]

Here is a brief post on how to finger women if you’re completely new: Consider how comfortable she is talking about sex. We’re starting here because her comfort around sexual topics are going to reflect how positive she’ll respond to sex in general, including being fingered. So communication and letting her know that it’s a normal […]

In this brief post, we go over ideas regarding penis size: Your genetics play a major role in your penis size. Keep in mind that cultural expectations are what make you self-conscious about penis size. During more greek times, small penises were all the rage. In modern times, with porn being so easily accessible, it makes […]

Let’s go over how to pack a kinky overnight bag for when you are planning to spend the night getting busy with your partner. Kinky Sex Bag Essentials Obviously this is just an example of a fairly thorough, yet basic. kink bag. It is custom to you. Personally, I use the D&P BDSM Package kept […]

The G-Spot is an area full of nerves, tissues, and organs—in other words, it’s actually not a specific thing so much as an area. The G-spot has a different texture and is on the front wall, and it’s actually where the clitoris, urethra, and vagina all meet together. This is why it’s such a stimulating area when penetrated. Or […]

Lube, or lubrication, is a fluid that makes sex and/or masturbation easier by softening skin, reducing genital/orifice irritation, making penetration easier, changing the taste of oral, etc. What is the best lube for you? Water-based lube is easy to find, affordable, safe for condoms and toys, easy to clean, don’t stain, very kink-friendly (ie electro play, […]

Here are some brief notes on sexual submission for beginners: Sexual Submission is surrendering control to somebody else for the illusion of having control and losing control. Understand that someone is always guiding an someone is always guided. In other words, who is doing the giving and the receiving. What is being given and recieved, and why […]

Here are five tips for topping your bottom: You don’t need to read minds, you’re allowed to ask questions. There’s no need to always read the bottom by solely their expressions and gestures. You are allowed to make explicitly verbal check-ins and communicate directly. Actively trying to avoid verbal communication to “show off” your ability to […]

A mouth gag is something you put in somebody’s mouth to give them a sense of restriction and/or bondage. A ball gag is one type of mouth gag. You can also use a piece of cloth as a gag, or a bit like a horse. How To Use A Ball Gag First you wanna take the ball gag and […]

Sensate Focus is a practice that decreases anxiety towards intimacy and allows for greater physical connection with a partner. How Does Sensate Focus Work? Sensate focus works best when practiced two or three times per week, with each session lasting about 20 to 30 minutes. You can practice sensate focus individually, or with a partner if […]

Here is a brief list of five ways you can Dom your partner: Sadist Dominant implements pains on their partner because they enjoy being affected physically, mentally, emotionally, or a mix. Daddy Dominant is more of a gentle caretaker who is more advising towards their submissive in how they should approach their life. Master Dominant is engaged with […]

Anal Play is when you play with the anus using your hands, tongue, etc. The best way to figure out how a woman likes anal play is to ask her what she likes. 5 Quick Anal Play Tips Before doing any anal play, make sure to clean the anus. Go take a shower and clean around the anus […]

Here are the five most popular sexual fantasies women have: Encountering a Celebrity is often a top sexual fantasy. This is why celebrity crushes are a thing. Being kidnapped, sexually coerced, raped. This is one of those irrational desires we humans have, where we wouldn’t actually want this to happen in reality, but within the confines of […]

Armpit Fetishism is an attraction to the underarm, armpit hair, and/or odor. Attraction towards the armpit can be because of the smell, the look, or even chemical sensations. Why are armpits attractive? Studies show that the chemical androstenedione is associated with the armpit. Partners who sniffed their partner’s armpits would experience an increase in libido and decreased […]

In this post, we are sharing lots of ideas and tips for anal sex and butt play: 3 Quick Anal Play Facts Anal play is for everyone. It’s not just for women, it’s for men too. Anal stimulation alone can cause someone to climax. This is because it’s full of nerve endings that can cause pleasure. The […]

In this post, we briefly go over ideas surrounding nipple play. What is a nipple? The nipple is found on the chest and is made up of two parts: the round part is called the areola, and it surrounds the tip called the nipple. Why do people like nipple play? Brain scans show that nipples stimulate […]

In this post, we go over three different types of long distance sex toys for long distance relationships: Bluetooth Chastity – Chastity is form of play that reminds the submissive of the person they’ve locked down back at home, even when their Dom is not present. Assuming that the device is comfortable, the wearer won’t be able […]

Here are tips on how to find a sugar baby: There are apps to help you find a sugar baby. You can look up Seeking Arrangements or search “seeking sugar baby” on an appstore, craigslist, or other relevant community page. Know what you can offer. What are you looking for in a sugar baby? And what will […]

Here are tips for you to appreciate your pussy: Know that when you say you want a pretty pussy, you are referring to the Vulva. This point is to get the anatomy out of the way—the vagina is all the inside stuff, the vulva are the pretty lips you want looking good. Understand that porn is […]

Alternative Sexuality is a reference to identities, behaviors, and communities, that are different from socially acceptable sexuality in mainstream culture. This is essentially anyone who is in the Scene, the “Lifestyle”, Kink, or BDSM Community. Alternative sexuality is not sexual deviance. Sexual deviance does not care for consent. Alternative sexuality is not limited to fetishes. For example, BDSM is […]

Understand that 5.1 inches is the average length of the erect penis. With that in mind, whether a penis is too big depends on where you are sticking it. There is also a matter of preference—keep that in mind. People who run into the most issues are those with lengths over 7 inches and widths […]

Squirting is female ejaculation that results from the plateau post-orgasm. This means she is more likely to squirt when you encourage her to keep you inside her after she’s already finished. Quick tip: Keep a towel around when things get messy. You can either stay penetrated and press down on her pubic area with the palm […]

A disabiity can be an impairment or impediment that keeps you from performing an action. Note for the Reader Keep in mind that if you have a disability, that you remember that your issues are NOT a result of your body, but instead they are a result of the world that you are in. There […]

Erotic Hypnosis is a sexual use of hypnosis. Hypnosis is tapping into someone’s subconscious mind and inducing a trance that makes them open to suggestion. A Trance is when your conscious mind falls back and give the subconscious mind the reins. Examples of this is going into flow, daydreaming, etc. Erotic hypnosis can be used to […]

Praise Kink, or gratification kink, is about getting pleasure from positive reinforcement and affirmation. This kink is about giving special attention to the things your partner is doing well or makes them attractive to you. The person getting pleasure from this can either be the person giving the compliments or the person receiving the compliments. […]

Fart Fetish is an attraction towards farts. This can mean smelling farts, hearing farts, being farted on, etc. This fetish skews heavily towards males, similar to how people with foot fetishes are more likely to be men. Why do people have fart fetishes? Because it incorporates most of the senses. That being smell, taste, sound, and […]

Remove clutter. Having a mess in your room can leave you feeling insecure about having a guest. The same way feeling bloated can make us feel unattractive. Decorate your walls. Adding color and texture to your walls will make your room more inviting. You can also add wall art to give a specific feel to the room. […]

Cockrings help stimulate the penis for it to fill with blood and keep a harder erection. 6 Types of Cockrings Cockrings can be made of leather, silicone, rubber, neoprene, metal, jade, magnet, rope, etc. The type of cockring you use depends on the reason why you’re using it. Show-er Cockrings helps present the penis the same way […]

Fisting is inserting your fist in someone’s ass or vagina for sexual pleasure. The following are some questions we’ve gotten from readers: Fisting hurts? While it hurts initially, after you get used to it, it become just pleasurable. Fisting is dangerous? It’s not inherently dangerous as long as you do it carefully. Make sure you are communicating with […]

Here are some tips for how to send kinky texts with your partner: Get permission to send kinky text messages. This is assuming you both are consenting kink partners. If someone isn’t looking to get these sort of messages from you, it could be disturbing and destructive sending these messages. Know this won’t always end with […]

Collaring is when a Dominant requests a submissives devotion and it’s recipricated by the sub being collared to signify their relationship. A Collaring Ceremony is a typically private event that is similar to a wedding, except within the context of publicly presenting the power dynamic relationship in the BDSM community. Collars can be made of leather, rope, metal, […]

Here are some must-know things to know about hypersexuality: Hypersexuality is not sex addiction. This is due to a lack of data on any evidence of tolerance and withdrawal like you’d expect with substance addiction. Hypersexuality is not the same as sexual deviance. Where the former can still retain morality and consent. Meanwhile, deviance is unethical and […]

Leather Daddies are Dominants who have a strong preference for using leather. What makes a leather daddy? This is typically a seasoned player who mentors a leather boy and/or other s-types. They are Dominants who typically have credibility in the leather and kink communities. There is also a more masculine aspect, community service, and adult competency in […]

Suspension Bondage is enhancing the sense of vulnerability and helplessness using equipment that suspends a person in the air. This is a skillset that takes many years to learn hands-on and will not be learned from any publication on the internet. Types of Suspension Horizontal Suspension is when the person is suspended facing up or down. Vertical […]

The following are signs to spot a fake orgasm: If you didn’t feel her vagina pulsate before finishing having sex, chances are she didn’t orgasm. She wasn’t acting the way she usually does. For example, if she’s usually ready for a nap, but this time she’s wide awake and ready to get up and do things—she probably […]

Here is a brief post on the five most popular sexual fantasies for men: Threesomes. Specifically with themselves and two women. Experience with MILF/Cougar. Having a sexual encounter with an experienced woman. Sex with schoolgirl. This is a popular fantasy that can be easily attained with a sexy outfit. Celebrity Encounters. This is usually for sex icons or woman […]

Long Distance Relationships are when you spend more time away from your partner than together, despite the actual distance. These are common in non-monogamy. Nesting Partners are the partners that stay with you at-home. If you have a nesting partner, it’s best you talk about how the arrangement will be when the LDR partner is in town. […]

In this post, Anastasia goes on a bit of a philosophical rant about Mistresses and Masters. You can read more articles on Mistresses and Masters here: Mistresses and Masters BDSM is great because people can experience it how they want to. You can imagine somewhere in the history of BDSM, a submissive told his Mistress […]

In this post, we go over some ideas about what is a DDLG relationship in BDSM. You can read more about DDLG relationships here: DDLG Relationship in BDSM DDLG stands for “Daddy Dom, Little Girl.” It is a dynamic BDSM in which one person plays the role of the “Daddy,” or caretaker, and the other […]

In this post, we talk about mummification in BDSM. You can read more about punishment and “funishment” here: 30+ Unique Ideas for BDSM Punishments What is “Funishment”? + Examples Examples of DD/LG Punishments What is Tickle Torture & How to do it Mummification in BDSM Can games from the BDSM universe be mixed with ancient […]

In this post, we go over some ideas about pet play in BDSM. You can read more about pet play here: Pet Play In BDSM Have you ever heard of Pet Play? In BDSM, it is a type of play where the submissive behaves like an animal or pet. So, the submissive is given space […]

In this post, we go over oral sex positions. You can read more here: How to Deepthroat Your Partner Can you get rid of your gag reflex forever? How to eat her ass like a pro Oral Sex Positions Standing, kneeling, or lying on one side are acceptable positions for oral sex. Do you want […]

In this post, we cover some misconceptions about sex and sex positivity. Misconceptions About Sex 1. With a condom you don’t feel pleasure This myth is false. It is one of the most used affirmations in young people, however, sexual pleasure does not depend on the condom, although the sensation may not be the same, […]

In this post, we go over the difference between fake and real Dominants. You can read more about Dominants here: What is a Dom/sub Relationship? How to Spot a Fake Dom Questions for Vetting a Potential Dominant What is a Soft Dom? Difference Between Fake And Real Dominants The decision of which Dominant you wish […]

The general public doesn’t always get that “BDSM” means “bondage and discipline, dominance and submission, sadism and masochism“. Sound consent is the most important part of BDSM and the most important thing that sets it apart from abuse. Difference Between BDSM & Abuse One could wonder where the line between an abusive relationship and a […]

In this post, we talk about how to use a vibrator for orgasms. How to have an orgasm with a vibrator 1. Start above your underwear Let’s start by playing over or under our sheets or underwear. Its different textures will make it more fun and let you feel new things without overstimulating your clitoris, […]

Does such a thing as the sacred art of pussy worship even exist? Indeed, this is the case. And if you’re unfamiliar with the concept of pussy worship, you might want to settle in for the ride, because you’re about to gain some insight into what it means to love a woman in all of […]

In this post, we quickly go over some male erogenous zones. Male erogenous zones 1. Glans To truly satisfy a man sexually attention must be given to various parts of his intimate anatomy. The most sensitive region is undoubtedly the glans or head of his penis; an area brimming with nerve endings. However one should […]

In this post, we quickly go over some female erogenous zones. Female erogenous zones 1. Point A All focused on the G-spot? Bad! There is also point A, that is, the anterior vaginal fornix . In 1984 – during a study related to vaginal dryness – the Malaysian researcher and gynecologist Chua Chee Ann discovered […]

In this post, we go over ideas of erogenous zones. You can read more about erogenous zones here: Do you know your erogenous zones? Erogenous zones are the areas on your body that have lots of nerve endings and are sensitive to pleasurable touch. This isn’t limited to sexual organs. If you want your sexual […]

Have you ever heard of a blended orgasm, or “mixed orgasm”? Some women enjoy clitoral stimulation, vaginal or even anal penetration to reach seventh heaven. But have you heard of “blended orgasm” or “mixed orgasm”? “Climax and term of sexual arousal, characterized by intense physical sensations”, is how the Larousse dictionary describes orgasm. This Holy […]

In this post, we briefly go over what is fear play in BDSM. Many submissives enjoy experiencing fear during BDSM. They experience a rush of anticipation, intensity, and suspense, similar to what others experience when skydiving or watching horror movies. When shared in a controlled environment with a Dom we admire, a sexual experience that […]

Have you ever heard of temperature play? The BDSM community engages in temperature play an incredible amount. However, anyone can participate in this sexual game; BDSM practitioners aren’t the only ones who get to enjoy it. Are you interested in having a sexual experience that varies between hot and cold temperatures? KEEP READING What is […]

Have you heard of Takate Kote TK Bondage? Takatekote is a form of bondage in which one’s hands are tied behind one’s back. This ligature is also abbreviated as TK. How to Tie the Takate Kote TK Bondage First and foremost, seiza, the Japanese way of sitting, must be incorporated. The back is upright, the […]

Have you ever heard of rimming? Tips on how to perform rimming in BDSM Anilingus Foreplay Before diving into the asshole, you can massage, knead and kiss the buttocks. After biting the fleshy part of the cheeks, you can head for the asshole, but you have to go back before you come into contact with […]

In this post, we talk about ideas surrounding how to give an orgasm with rimming. How to Give an Orgasm with Rimming Communication is still essential in sex – and most situations. This is especially true when you eat ass. You may need to politely inform your partner that he or she needs to shave […]

Rough sex is a type of sex in which pain is involved in the sexual act to increase sexual pleasure. It is a sexual release in which you can display your brute strength and lust. Rough sex isn’t something most people talk about casually, but it’s something we could all enjoy if we do it […]

Are aphrodisiac foods real or myth? Various traditions associated with aphrodisiac foods have existed worldwide since the dawn of civilization. These are based on the idea that certain foods can influence psycho-physical aspects and promote sexual well-being. Some foods offered by nature have thus come down to us with the reputation of aphrodisiacs, century after […]

Are aphrodisiacs real, safe, and legal? What is an aphrodisiac? It is a product that is said to have the ability to increase libido and sexual desire. Aphrodisiacs can take many forms, including: Plant; Food; Spices; Essential oils; Medication. Ginger, cocoa, oysters, strawberries, cinnamon, cloves, essential oil of Damiana or even Viagra and Cialis, the […]

Have you ever wondered what is an aphrodisiac? Rooted in ancient mythology. Aphrodite – known as the Greek goddess symbolizing love and beauty – serves as the muse for coining the term “aphrodisiac.” This terminology encompasses both natural substances and synthetic compounds that purportedly heighten sexual desire and pleasure in individuals of all genders. Throughout […]

Can corsets change your shape? There are numerous misconceptions circulating about the impact of wearing a corset on your body, which we want to address respectfully. Is there any potential harm? Does it alter the sensation of your organs? Does it result in permanent changes? Properly worn. A corset can have incredible effects on ones […]

Are corsets good for your back? Corsets can alleviate back pain, improve posture, stabilize spinal curvature (scoliosis), and hide body irregularities. By providing additional support, they also help women with a large or heavy chest find relief from the discomfort associated with neck and back pain. Fascia and muscles share a close relationship and are […]

Are corsets good for posture? It seems that poor posture is the defining characteristic of the modern man. Suppose you’ve seen a basic chart of human evolution, the kind that begins with an ape walking on all fours and ends with a modern-day hominid standing upright. In that case, you might think that we’re starting […]

Are corsets bad for your organs? A famous saying that haunts us women says, “To look beautiful, you must suffer.” But without exaggerating and, most importantly, without endangering your health. This is the case of the “aesthetic” corset we discussed due to the Waist Training phenomenon; a rigid constricting corset brought back into vogue recently […]

Are corsets uncomfortable? Find the Corset That Is Just Right For You Ensuring a comfortable fit for your corset is essential. To achieve this. It is important to take precise measurements of your waist, bust, underbust, hips, and torso. However do not be tempted to shorten your order by one or two inches in an […]

Are you wondering what is the difference between Ethical Non-Monogamy vs Swinging? Ethical Non-Monogamy vs Swinging What is ethical non-monogamy? Most people do not associate non-monogamy with rules, but to be ethically non-monogamy, you and your partner must agree to a contract. This will define what counts and does not count as cheating, and both […]

In this post, we go over how to talk to your partner about ethical non-monogamy. How to Talk to Your Partner About Ethical Non-Monogamy Find out what you want from non-monogamy and why you want it before approaching your partner to talk about exclusive non-monogamy (ENM). I have asked any clients interested in ENM to […]

In this post, we go over ideas surrounding rules for ethical non-monogamy. The practice of non-monogamy can quickly become tangled and convoluted. Here are a list of guidelines for managing an ethical, non-monogamous relationship: 1. Make sure your partner is prepared to practice moral monogamy. Things could go wrong in a partnership or marriage if […]

In this post, we go over some of the benefits of ethical non-monogamy. A study conducted in 2017 aimed to examine the contrasting traits of monogamous and consensually non-monogamous relationships. Surprisingly, the findings showed that CNM relationships had notably higher levels of trust and significantly lower levels of jealousy compared to their monogamous counterparts. However, […]

In this post, we go over how to bring up ethical non-monogamy with your partner. 1. Why you want to inquire about non-monogamy matters You might want to think twice before opening up if you want to solve relationship problems that you are otherwise unwilling to address. Opening up a relationship casts a stadium-sized spotlight […]

In this post, we go over how to practice ethical non-monogamy. People interested in polyamory but don’t yet fully practice it are called “poly curious.” These people are usually monogamous who are thinking about switching to a form of ethical non-monogamy. It’s not unusual to think that your partner might be open to dating other […]

What does ethical non-monogamy mean? The decision to opt for either monogamy or non monogamy presents a complex dilemma. Yet shifting our perspective may offer new insights into this matter at hand. An example of an alternative approach is ethical non monogamy—a relationship founded on mutual respect and freedom rather than exclusivity. Should one consider […]

In this post, we go over the difference between ethical non-monogamy vs open relationships. In ethical non monogamy relationships individuals have the opportunity to engage in multiple romantic or sexual partnerships as long as all parties involved are fully aware and enthusiastic about this arrangement. Examples of consensually non monogamous relationships include polyamory, open relationships, […]

What are the types of ethical non-monogamy? If you’ve been in monogamous relationships but felt like they didn’t “fit” your personality, maybe you should reconsider how you live your love life. While there are many ways to have an open relationship, the majority of non-monogamy practices are done in the following ways: A swinger relationship […]

What is the difference between poly and ethical non-monogamy? Polyamory is the non-possessive, honest, responsible and ethical philosophy and practice of loving multiple people simultaneously. Meaning of the term “polyamory” “Polyamory” and “polyamory” are mixed Greek-Latin terms: the first part means “many” and the second means “loves”. It therefore refers to the philosophy and practice […]

What is an ethical non-monogamous relationship? According to society, the most common love style among the masses is monogamy, or having only one intimate/romantic partner. Ethical Non-Monogamy, or ENM, has arrived. ENM has been growing in popularity for decades and has recently entered the mainstream through articles, documentaries, and dating apps. Although the precise definition […]

Can non-monogamy ever be ethical? The term “ethical non-monogamy,” or ENM, describes various types of relationships. It refers to knowingly and voluntarily having multiple romantic or sexual relationships. Consensus is the key word here. Ethical non-monogamy is not unethical. Each party’s choice has been mutually agreed upon. Despite this, non-monogamy is still practiced, and non-monogamy […]

What is harnessing in BDSM? Bondage harnesses now serve a dual purpose in BDSM. For one thing, they are extremely useful. They will provide the dominant partner with numerous accessible access points to attach ropes, chains, and leases, or simply control or grab the submissive partner. A BDSM sex harness, for example, will revitalize your […]

Have you ever wondered why hair pulling is so kinky? Although we always clarify that, in matters of sex, as in tastes, genders are broken; it is true that certain things apply to a large majority of the sexually active population; for example: foreplay for women or oral sex for men. Very few women would […]

What are golden showers in kink? You’ve probably heard of the “golden shower,” and you and your partner are interested in experiencing it. However, before committing to this paraphilia, it’s critical that both parties feel safe, are drawn to the game of dominance and submission, and have a firm grasp on how to play it […]

Have you ever wondered about what is fisting in BDSM? If you want to get into it, you’ll need a lot of experience. Perhaps this explains why the practice is so obscure and uncommon that so few people know it? Fisting requires a lubricant and a lot of patience. Because? Fisting is simply the insertion […]

What is exhibitionism in BDSM? Exhibitionism is the act of allowing others to witness intimate parts of your sexual life in the hopes of arousing their desires. Another option is to pleasure others’ reactions when they experience the sexual emotion of being watched, or a combination of the two. Exhibitionism can lead to careers in […]

In this post, we go over how to use dildos for kinky fun. The scope of what one considers as kinky varies from person to person. Given that everyones’ average sexual experience differs. Therefore it is essential to respect individual preferences and understand that what may be considered as kinky by one person may not […]

In this post, we go over how to use handcuffs for kinky fun. Since the beginning of time, sex and handcuffs have been close companions. This is because many people find the prospect of engaging in sexual activities while their hands are restrained to be very exciting. Nevertheless, it is essential to consider some recommendations […]

Have you wondered what is a cock ring and how to use it? Cock rings are one of the most well-known sex toys that most people have no experience with, despite it looking straightforward to use and seems harmless. This accessory can be comfortably worn on the penis. Some cock rings can vibrate to stimulate […]

Have you ever wondered why it feels good being bitten? Sex and food are both regarded as fundamental necessities for humans, and as such, the two are frequently compared to one another. In addition, the language we use to describe having sex is frequently as poetic as the language we use to describe tucking into […]

In this post, we go over ideas surrounding a Dominant woman and the desire for domination. Participating in sexual dominance entails engaging in role playing dynamics whereby one partner coerces the other into participating in intimate activities or behaviors to gratify the dominant party involved. It is crucial to acknowledge that both men and women […]

In this post, we go over what is blindfolding and BDSM tips. Sexual activity and having one’s eyes covered in a blindfold go together like peanut butter and jelly. Following these simple steps, you can bring the excitement of blindfolding into the bedroom. Jessica O’Reilly, who authored “The New Sex Bible,” claims that eye patches […]

What is ball stretching in BDSM? Many men worldwide are researching to identify the most reliable recommendations for risk-free ball stretching to lower the position of their testicles permanently. The stretching of a ball can be done in various ways. Men can do ball stretching using either their hands, a weighted or unweighted device, or […]

In this post, we go over ideas of what is anal sex and how to use butt plugs. We’ve seen that anal sex is becoming more and more popular, especially among younger people and maybe because of the growth of the LGBT community. But anal sex, which has always been thought of as one of […]

What are water sports in BDSM? Watersports popular in fetish and kink circles have little to do with actual water, and you won’t find a single boat or canoe anywhere in sight! Urinating is a common component of watersports, which are also sometimes referred to as “piss play.” Some people enjoy engaging in a D/s […]

In this post, we go over ideas on how to do cock and ball torture. Cock and Ball Torture Techniques The groins of a man are more sensitive than any other part of his body. There is a significant possibility that most CBT fetish site visitors who are currently reading this have never had the […]

In this post, we go over some ideas surrounding petplay activities. The variety of PetPlay There are many different animals, but cats, dogs, ponies, and foxes are the most common in pet play. Petplayers can use animal components and accessories, such as masks and ears, to simulate their chosen animal. In BDSM, the dominant behaves […]

In this post, we briefly go over ideas of what is pet play. Have you ever imagined having sex while dressed as a cat, arriving at a bar crawling on all fours, and being led by a leash? These practices are far from unusual for those skilled at pet play. The BDSM practice consists of […]

In this post, we go over ideas about how to find a submissive partner that is right for you. You must be in a D/s relationship with the right sub for you. These five tips, along with continuing to build trust, can assist you in finding a good sub. So, what characteristics should you look […]

Here are ways on how to reward your Dominant: First, you could offer a service you don’t usually do. Not everything has to be sexual. Give them a massage, soak their feet in water, and give them sexual service that you don’t long for (for me, that’s analingus). Be their footstool, do their taxes, and […]

Can you get rid of your gag reflex forever? The gag reflex, also known as the involuntary contraction of the back of the throat is triggered when various objects make contact with deeper parts of the mouth. While its purpose is to prevent choking experiencing a strong gag reflex can be quite uncomfortable and may […]

Have you ever wondered how to deepthroat your partner? Everyone knows that men like oral sex, but what about deep throat? Many women may believe that performing deep throat oral sex is an unattainable feat. Although it remains a fantasy for countless men. Novices mistakenly assume that merely placing their mouth in the appropriate position […]

In this post, we go over the best types of BDSM play for newbies. Sensory Deprivation Taking away your sight makes every sound, smell, touch, and taste seem louder. When you can’t use one of your senses as well, it makes the others stand out more. If you put a sleep mask or silk scarf […]

Are you wondering how to peg your partner with a strap-on? “Traditionally”, pegging is when a cisgender, heterosexual male gets anal penetration from his cishet female partner with a strap-on dildo. It’s a controversial word, though. As our knowledge of gender and sexuality grows, some people wonder why this isn’t just called anal sex, strap-on […]

While “dirty” is often used in pornographic contexts, it’s also used in everyday conversation. Many people use dirty talk to get things going and improve their relationship with their partner. Why would you talk dirty to your partner? Talking dirty to your partner as part of the path to sex can increase sexual tension, which […]

Can sounding cause bleeding? When engaging in urethral sounding or other forms of play involving the urethra certain issues may arise. Those who have not participated in sounding for an extended period commonly report experiencing burning sensations and discomfort as typical occurrences. However. It is vital to understand the severity surrounding urethral sound bleeding. If […]

In this post, we go over ideas about sounding for beginners and how to sound someone. You can perform urethral sounding, or “penis sounding,” by sticking an object into the urethra, which is the opening through which urine exits the body. This procedure is used in the medical field to clear obstructions in the urethra. […]

In this post, we go over what is tickle torture and how to do it. The use of tickles to dominate, humiliate or interrogate someone is known as tickle torture. While laughter is commonly associated with pleasure, in tickle torture, the person being tickled may laugh whether or not the experience is enjoyable. In a […]

In this post, we go over how to fist someone. Fisting is a form of sex in which the hand is inserted into the vagina or anus in various degrees of penetration. initially more popular among straight women, it quickly caught on among the queer community too! It is a harrowing sexual practice because it […]

In this post, we go over ideas on how to communicate with a partner about BDSM. Some individuals may experience discomfort at the sight of a rope. Exploring their own sexuality often leads individuals to develop an interest in BDSM stories and films. It is not uncommon for people to experience feelings for others later […]

Let’s go over the difference between bottom vs submissive vs slave. Bottom vs Submissive vs Slave Bottom A bottom is a role that is typically being affect by the Top in a scene. Most people don’t submit outside the agreed-upon period of play that both parties are having fun. A inexperienced bottom who isn’t designated […]

In this post, we go over ideas on how to use a butt plug. What is an anal plug? Anal sex toys, such as the anal plug have gained popularity among individuals. It is also commonly referred to as a butt plug. The purpose of an anal plug is to prepare oneself for anal intercourse. […]

Have you wondered how to pull hair for kinky fun during sex or play? If done correctly, attempting to grab the wick during the act can be enjoyable. Also, cunnilingus is an easy way to keep your hands occupied. Is this what the public wants to hear? Do you know why military personnel shave their […]

What is a Poly Relationship? Polyamory, a type of relationship where three or more individuals are simultaneously involved and aware of each others presence allows for the possibility of having multiple sexual and romantic relationships at the same time. This concept stems from polygamy or non monogamy. However polyamory is not widely accepted in Western […]

Here we will go over how to perform rimming along with tips and techniques. After you’ve taken care of hygiene, you can begin right away. However, we advise against eating butt. Taking your time builds anticipation and sexual tension, which can heighten the intensity of your experience. Learn why sexual tension is so important and […]

In this post, we go over how to eat her ass like a pro. Butt eating is one of the few sexual activities that few people attempt, although it can be extremely intimate and pleasurable. If you’ve been avoiding the subject despite your interest, or if your partner has expressed an interest in receiving, now […]

Tantric sex can last hours, unlike traditional sex, which lasts about 10 to 30 minutes or so. The funniest thing is that when we say tantric sex can last hours, people look surprised, but they forget that caresses can be done in various ways. Tantric sex makes people feel great pleasure and enjoy the moment […]

What does tantra mean sexually? Tantric sex is a set of ancient techniques that help couples become more attuned to each other. Tantric sex can be an interesting way to be fully connected with your loved one in times when everything is “fast.” Sex is a sublime practice capable of uniting two bodies and elevating […]

While many people have heard the term tantric sex, not everyone understands what it entails. However, sex and relationship expert provide a sneak peek that may pique the interest of many: “It [tantric sex] can provide you with multiple orgasms lasting 20 minutes each.” One of the main draws of tantric sex is having multiple […]

In this post, we go over how to make a woman squirt. Every woman produces ejaculatory fluid. It differs from urine in that Skene’s gland produces it at some point during orgasm. Does this mean that every woman can squirt like a fountain? Not. Most women are unable to. For most women, this glandular fluid […]

In this post, we go over tips on how to choke your partner sexually and safely. How to Choke Her Sexually & Safely Erotic asphyxiation has long been associated with the most extreme sado-maso fetishes in people’s minds and on the Internet, which does not bode well. Even as it becomes more democratic, breath play […]

In this post, we briefly go over how to tie wrists with a double column tie. Are you new to BDSM, but bondage classes appear slightly too complicated? Here’s a simple bondage technique that will allow you to tie a rope around your partner’s wrists. And all in complete safety, with a pleasing aesthetic outcome. […]

Are you wondering how to overcome sexual anxiety? Sexual anxiety is something that impacts both men and women. Since many people believe their sexual prowess is an indication of their own worth, they can manifest anxiety that damages their self-esteem. This lowered self-esteem is usually due to a fear of not meeting someone’s sexual expectations. […]

Are you looking for more ways to pleasure a woman or partner? Many people believe that to have a ‘complete’ and ‘positive’ experience in bed, they must not only enjoy the moment, but also try to satisfy their partner. To help clarify things, we’ll go over how ‘sexual satisfaction’ is defined and why it’s important […]

Are you looking for more ways to dominate a man? It’s common for a woman to want the experience of dominating a man in bed. If she can find a man who will consent to being dominated, there are a variety of ways for her to express her desires. Ways to Dominate a Man As […]

What is Shibari Rope in BDSM? Shibari, or tight tie in Japanese, is a type of bondage, an erotic practice from Japan based on the immobilization of a person’s body. This art uses natural fiber ropes to follow technical and aesthetic principles, not just to prevent the body from moving. Shibari ties are more complex […]

What is Sex Bondage in BDSM? Have you ever had sex with someone who tied your hands? You’d already had your first basic bondage experience. Classic bondage, on the other hand, is more than just being handcuffed to a bed or having your wrists tied. Bondage is associated with dominance and submission, or the power […]

What is Kinbaku in BDSM? Kinbaku (or Sokubaku) is a Japanese style of sexual tying or BDSM that involves simple to complex knots, usually with several pieces of rope (generally 6mm or 8mm) and that can be of different materials, including the traditional Japanese rope used for Shibari, hemp rope. Shibari became popular in the […]

Are you looking for ways to increase your penis size, or your partner’s size, in the most reliable and safest way possible? I recommend Bathmate since it’s one of the safest ways to improve blood circulation and enlarge penis size. I started using my bathmate back in 2017 and it’s the reason why women, and […]

A power bottom is a person who is taking control of a scene from the bottom. Understand that the person who is getting penetrated isn’t automatically the submissive in the context of sex. In the case of a power bottom, they are dominating the situation by taking charge while also being the one who is […]

Are you looking for the types of littles in BDSM? BDSM community has a lot of role plays, one of which is the DD/lg (Daddy Dom/little girl) relationship. Daddies usually indulge their little girls and nurture them to make their girls feel young and attractive. Little girls who choose this arrangement are often very delicate, […]

Are you wondering what is Kajira in BDSM? Well, you’ve come to the right place. But first, let’s go over some background info about the word. Anyone, who is familiar with John Norman’s Gor novels already knows, that Kajira refers to the term for female slave or “slave-girl”. In John Norman’s work, a made-up word […]

Are you wondering what is cell-popping in BDSM? Cell popping is a form of body modification in which a tiny round burn is left on the skin with usually a red-hot needle or poker. The sequence of these burns can be created in a pattern similar to a tattoo. It is a form of branding […]

A high protocol in BDSM is a system of rules for a D/s dynamic. The purpose of High Protocol is to create a set of rules that facilitate the interaction between the Dominant and the sub, and make it possible to connect both mentally and practically. Etiquette is a part of the High-protocol that pertains […]

Are you wondering what is a tack bra and what is it used for? What is a Tack Bra & What’s It Used For? A tack bra is a possible punishment you can enforce on your consenting sub as a result for them breaking a rule or disobeying you. Essentially, you have your sub pick […]

Are you looking for what types of Daddy Doms there are? One of the most misunderstood types of BDSM relationships is the Daddy Dom/little girl relationship (or DD/lg).  DD/lg is a form of ageplay where one person is a caregiver (or Daddy) and the other takes up the role of the caregiven (or child). This […]

In this post, we talk about what is a DD/lg relationship. What is a DD/LG Relationship? One of the most popular BDSM practices today is the DD/LG relationship. DD/LG, which means Dominant Daddy / little girl is one of the forms of BDSM relationships in which there is a Dominant partner in the role of […]

Are you wondering what are BDSM Mistresses and Masters? A BDSM Master or Mistress is a man or woman who is knowledgeable about one or more aspects of BDSM. An interested person can approach these Masters or Mistresses for a BDSM session. The Master or Mistress can thus safely practice their extensive knowledge of BDSM. […]

These BDSM tips and advice for beginners below will help introduce you to BDSM and discover which form of BDSM appeals to you most. Ideal to gain inspiration and start the journey of discovery within BDSM Discuss your current fantasies or wishes with your partner. Order a sexy BDSM clothing set and experience what it […]

Here is a list of some Dom sub movies and documentaries to check out if you’re interested in kink, but want to take a “para”-approach to things. Secretary A dom-sub tale for the times. Nine Songs Aggressively corporal. Nymphomaniac Vol. I The first step is admitting you have a problem. Nymphomaniac Vol. II The second […]

Here is a list of the most popular kinky toys and tools used in BDSM. Most Popular Kinky Toys All You Need Bondage Kit Male Chastity Cage Kit Dark Magic Thrusting Sex Machine Vibrating Pussy Pump and Tongue Vibrator Steel Locking Chastity Cage Electra Stim Leather Spanking Paddle Hands-Free Vibrating Clitoral Stimulator Purple Reins Sex […]

Why you should attend a munch & what to expect (BDSM). There are a variety of reasons why people enjoy BDSM. “Some people want to go deeper and partake in more bondage and domination acts to explore their sense of control,” Alvarez-Story explains. “While others may utilize it to add more variety to their sex […]

Here are some BDSM munch tips and etiquette: Regardless of their level of experience or interest in BDSM, many kinksters are hesitant to enter dungeons where they might see strangers being beaten or having sex, or where they might be asked to play by someone they’ve just met. Munches take place in ordinary, unremarkable settings. […]

What do you wear at a munch? (BDSM) Choosing what to wear to an event can be a fun, stressful, or dreadful adventure for both new and established people. It is true that knowing what to wear on a return visit to the dungeon, the event, or the club is much easier for someone who […]

People who attend munches come from all walks of life, but they tend to be highly intelligent, imaginative, and individualistic as a group. Almost everyone who attends has a personal interest in BDSM. Most munches have a designated host or hosts who are informally in charge of the event – but firmly if necessary. Some […]

Here is a brief history of BDSM munches. Munches began in the early 1990s, well before the widespread adoption of the internet. Meeting members of the BDSM scene was a little more difficult at the time, due to the prevalent anti-BDSM sentiment and the resulting lack of places to meet others with similar interests. While […]

Are you wondering what are munches in BDSM? A BDSM munch is a public gathering of two or more people who practice BDSM to meet and socialize. A BDSM Munch isn’t scary in the least. They are set up in public and can be a formal or informal gathering depending on the host. It’s critical […]

Are you wondering what is boot blacking in BDSM? Bootblacking is a popular BDSM service, especially among Leather communities. Cleaning, polishing, and occasionally spit-blacking a pair of boots, usually those of a Dominant or Master/Mistress, is required. Bootblacking can be used for a variety of reasons, including professional service, submission, military-style uniform play, boot-worship, and […]

The Bandana Hanky Color Code (also known as the handkerchief code or bandana code) is a color-based code used by gay leather and fetishists to communicate their sexual preferences to others. Each color in this code corresponds to a specific sexual preference (practice). Originally, a bandana (handkerchief) was used to indicate the color in the […]

In this post, we briefly go over what is a collaring ceremony in BDSM. What is a collaring ceremony in BDSM? Collaring is a ceremony within a BDSM relationship. It marks a moment of great commitment between a couple. Usually, before the collar, the Dominant has one-on-one sessions with his submissive. The sub doesn’t belong […]

In this post, we go over what is a training collar in BDSM. What is a training collar in BDSM? The training collar is worn by submissive novices for the duration of their training. It does not symbolize a commitment other than to learn and obey Dominant training or guidance. Typically, this necklace is unadorned, […]

In this post, we go over BDSM collars, training collars, and collaring ceremonies. BDSM Collars: Training Collar & Collaring Ceremony Collars are not a sign of the barbaric and unconventional slavery that was practiced in the 17th and 18th centuries. In the BDSM realm, a collar has a completely different meaning, the way the dom […]

Here are tips for a Dom/sub Long Distance Relationship: 1. Establish a (Flexible) Plan WRITE your plan – including PLAN Bs for everything – after you’ve discussed the specifics of your long-distance situation. Keep in mind, however, that the beginning of your journey will be bumpy, and your strategy will need to change as new […]

In this post, we briefly go over a few ideas regarding Dom/sub Emotional Connection. When we are emotionally reliant on someone, we often use them as a ‘filler’ to mask and distract us from our own unresolved emotional issues. It is more common to seek happiness from the outside rather than the inside. To feel […]

Here is a list of the most common BDSM myths: Myth: BDSM is a weird thing that most people don’t like. “There are a lot of different opinions on how common this is “Many people may believe that only a small percentage of people have these desires.” According to a study published in the Journal […]

In this post, we briefly go over what is edge play in BDSM. What is Edge Play in BDSM? There are three types of edge play. They can apply at the same time, so make sure you know which definition you’re using when discussing edge play. 1. Edge play is SM play in which there […]

In this post, we quickly go over what is impact play in BDSM. What is Impact Play in BDSM? Impact play refers to a practice where one person is physically struck by another. There are various accessories available for impact play and the manner and force of impact can be adjusted based on personal preferences. […]

In this post, we’ll briefly go over what is wax play in BDSM. What is Wax Play in BDSM? Like bondage and spanking, wax play or game with wax is one of the most seductive BDSM practices due to its visual appeal full of sexual connotations (after all, it’s also called the wax sperm used […]

In this post, we go over what is abrasion play in BDSM. What is Abrasion Play in BDSM? Abrasions can refer to sexual arousal derived from contact with rough substances. This practice can take place between individuals or involve the use of materials such as rough wool or thistles. However caution must be exercised when […]

In this post, we go over what is SSC and RACK in BDSM. Safe, Sane, and Consensual or SSC The original in terms of keeping your kinkiness on the right track is SSC, which stands for safe, sane, and consensual. For those of us who follow SSC, three questions come to mind: To make SSC […]

In this post, we go over what are BDSM rituals. The terms rituals, rules, and protocols are often used interchangeably, but they are distinct. A BDSM protocol is a firm rule that is usually included in a D/s contract. A ritual is more of a method of accomplishing a goal. It’s almost always an action […]

Here are some Dom/sub Tips, Rituals, and Routines: Tips for Doms Demand respect from the submissive in the way he treats you. When punishing the submissive, explain why. This serves as his indoctrination. Always after a punishment, show a little compassion, after all it’s a human being. Respect the SSC at all times. When doing […]

Here is a quick post on how to write BDSM by my friend Anastasia. She’s one of the very few people I let write on this website who offers insight on the kink community from a perspective outside of the United States. Like myself, she’s also a writer (I’m sure if you pay attention, you […]

In this post, we talk about what is a BDSM scene. What is a BDSM Scene? A scene is an planned out scenario between two or more consenting people who are interested in having a mutual experience. A scene consists of power exchange where one person takes the role of Top or Dominant and the […]

In this post, we go over some common DDLG rules for littles. But first, let’s briefly go over what the DDLG dynamic is about. Those of you who believe there is a link between DDLG and pedophilia should conduct extensive research. The DDLG kink has nothing to do with liking children. It is simply making […]

Before determining what type of little are you, let’s briefly go over what a little is. Littles are people who, at their core, are children. They appear to be completely normal, independent adults (or sometimes young people) who have retained a portion of their childhood. It is up to the individual to express this. Typically […]

In this post, we briefly go over how DDLG relationships work. How do DDLG relationships work? The term DD/LG is an abbreviation for Daddy Dominant/little girl, which is considered a dynamic in the vast world of BDSM. One aspect that attracts our attention is the appearance of these relationships. In these dynamics the individual who […]

In this post, we briefly go over what does DDLG stand for. What does DDLG stand for? DDLG is an abbreviation for Daddy Dom and Little Girl. If the sex identities are different, you may see MDLB (Mommy Dom/little boy) or CGL (Caregiver/little). These abbreviations describe a relationship dynamic derived from BDSM. And it is […]

Power exchange is a term that is frequently used in the BDSM community to describe dominance and submission relationships. Submissive partners willingly and voluntarily relinquish control to their Dominant partners. Either in a specific situation, for a specific period of time, or completely. Submissive partners in power exchange relationships must surrender to and obey their […]

In this post, we go over what’s the difference between sub vs slave. What’s the difference between sub vs slave? In the BDSM community, both submissive and slave roles are distinct identities. For example, a submissive woman can want to serve, submit, and be dominated, but not necessarily all the time. She might reserve her […]

In this post, we go over what is a Master/Slave (M/s) contract. What is a Master/Slave Contract? In BDSM, a Master/slave relationship is when one person, a slave, gives another person, the Master, ultimate authority over many aspects of their life and well-being. This type of relationship goes beyond typical submission. Instead, it is an […]

In this post, we go over what is a Dom/sub contract. What is a Dom/sub Contract? A D/s contract is essentially the written result of the Dom and sub’s negotiation. There is no one way to go about it. They are usually non-binding, so you can write them however you want. They usually include the […]

In this post, we very briefly go over what is a BDSM contract. What is a BDSM Contract? The outline of a BDSM contract First and foremost, a BDSM contract must be a win-win situation for both parties. All signatories must be able to safeguard their collective and individual interests. Pay attention to the form […]

Here are some tips on how to be a good sub for your Dominant/Master. Tips for How to be a Good sub Respect Your Master When it comes to being a good submissive, one of the first qualities to possess is respect. This respect should be aimed more towards the Dominant, as it is also […]

In this post, we briefly go over tips on how to be a good Dom. How to Be a Good Dominant When we try to figure out what makes a good dominant, we can easily fall into stereotypes and cliches. The dominant is commonly portrayed as a wealthy and successful businessman; a specific dominant archetype […]

in this post, we quickly go over what is a Dom/sub relationship. What is a Dom/sub Relationship? In a D/s relationship between two people, there is one person who is the Dominant and one person who is the submissive. Dom Meaning: A Dom, or Dominant, is a “top” role played by someone who likes taking control. […]

Are you wondering what is bondage and discipline exactly? And what do they have to do with each other? Bondage & Discipline Bondage in general The main goal of bondage is to restrict your partner’s freedom of movement. A set of handcuffs can be used, but bondage ropes are also widely used. Handcuffs are often […]

In this post, we briefly go over what does BDSM stand for? What does BDSM stand for? BDSM is an acronym for Bondage, Discipline, Dominance, Submission, and Sado-Masochism. BDSM involves an aspect of role play where everyone consents to someone taking a Dominant or Top role and the other person taking a submissive or bottom […]

In this post, we talk about things to do for a Daddy Dom when you are a little. Things to do for a Daddy Dom DDLG is not the simple dominant/submissive relationship that people are used to in BDSM. Here, the main emphasis is on trust and caring for the submissive, or more specifically, little […]

In this post, we’ll talk about what is fear play along with some examples. What is Fear play? Fear play is a type of S&M that involves your fears. While there are many different types of fear games, they all have one thing in common: they all put one’s emotional resiliency to the test, whether […]

In this post, we’ll go over what is sensual domination along with some tips and examples. What is Sensual Domination? Sensual domination is a form of domination that either emphasizes feeling and pleasure as a reward for pain and punishment or does not indicate pain or punishment at all. Although it may appear to be […]

In this post, we’ll be going over examples of Daddy Dom/little girl (DD/LG) punishments Examples of DD/LG punishments To begin with, BDSM is a psychological subculture in which sexual-erotic relationships are based on the exchange of power, whereas such role-play games as DD/LG are based on domination and subordination. The main task of using role-playing […]

In this post, we talk about what is forced orgasm and orgasm control. What is Forced Orgasm & Orgasm Control? Orgasm Control is a way of having sex, related to BDSM, which refers to the control of a person’s orgasms. Controlled orgasm is used to give a higher level of arousal and a better orgasm. […]

In this post, we talk about what is subspace in BDSM. What is Subspace in BDSM? Subspace is an infusion of adrenaline and endorphins that causes this emotional and psychological reaction. It is difficult to describe since it varies from person to person, especially due to the many emotions, responses, and reactions involved. Subspace is […]

In this post, we go over what is sub-frenzy in BDSM? What is sub-frenzy? Sub-frenzy is a condition that affects many new submissives. Sub-frenzy refers to the first rush of overwhelming desire to explore every sort of kink, typically at the expense of their own well-being. Most of us have fantasized about submission long before […]

In this post, we talk about what is sub maintenance. What is Sub Maintenance? When embarking on a BDSM relationship Dominants and submissives are often filled with immense enthusiasm and dedication. However, over time, the challenges of everyday life start to make an impact. It is not uncommon for Dominants to encounter various issues such […]

In this post, we talk about what is pain play and the types of pain play. What is Pain Play? Types of Pain Play Pain Play is a term that is given to all pain games that are done to reach a higher level of thrill and sensation. Pain Play typically involves the one partner […]

In this post, we talk about what is internal enslavement. What is Internal Enslavement? “Mental BDSM” and “internal enslavement” are two concepts that almost always generate misunderstandings in conversations. While they seem similar, “mental BDSM” typically refers to psychological (rather than physical) control, and “internal enslavement” is what you’d expect the definition of “slave” to […]

In this post, we talk about what is erotic humiliation along with some examples. What is Erotic Humiliation + Examples Erotic humiliation is defined as the voluntary use of psychological or physical humiliation in a sexual relationship, in which one person experiences arousal or erotic thrill as a result of the confused and intense feelings […]

In this post, we talk about what is Dom drop, or otherwise known as “Top Drop.” What is Dom Drop / Top Drop? Consider a moment when you had a surge of good and exciting feelings, such as when you rode a roller coaster or finally stood up for yourself in a fight. These events […]

In this post, we go over what is body worship and some of the different types of body worship. What is Body Worship? Body worship is the practice of honoring any part of another person’s body, even their whole body under specific situations. Although it can occur in non-BDSM relationships, it is most typically used […]

In this post, we talk about what is ageplay in BDSM. What is Ageplay in BDSM? Ageplay is a catch-all phrase for any sort of BDSM roleplay in which you pretend to be someone else’s age (typically younger) than you are. It’s fairly widespread in the kink community. That’s why you’ll find full-grown folks in […]

In this post, we go over what is funishment and examples of funishment. What is “Funishment” + Examples Funishment is a compound word, that is, it comes from the union of 2 words, the word “Fun” and “Punishment”. The “Funishment” is a pleasant way to be punished, usually in a sexual way. Examples of Funishment […]

In this post, we go over what are age players in BDSM and types of age players. What are age players? Types of Age Players Here is a list of the different types of ageplay identities involved in ageplay: Adult babies Adult babies are persons who enjoy regressing to a childlike stage. Typically, they will […]

In this post, we go over the different types of BDSM Mistresses. Types of BDSM Mistresses Contrary to common perceptions. It is crucial to recognize the diversity among BDSM Mistresses. While all possess the quality of exerting control over a slave. Their methods differ from one relationship to another. It is imperative for you to […]

In this post, we go over the difference between BDSM vs abuse. What is the Difference between BDSM vs Abuse? BDSM is an acronym for Bondage, Discipline, Dominance, Submission, Sadism, and Masochism. It is a form of role play that involves consensual activities in which one partner takes on a dominant role (Dom), and the […]

In this post, we go over what is spanking and bare-handed spanking in BDSM. Spanking & Bare-handed Spanking in BDSM When you were younger, your mother could have spanked you if you got into trouble or refused to return home after playing outside with the neighbors. Those were not happy days. However, as an adult, […]

In this post, we’re going over some BDSM negotiation basics and tips. NOTE: This post is written by Anastasia. There may be cultural differences in the kink community between where she lives and those who live in the United States. You can find in-depth information on Negotiation in the audio lesson titled ” Safety, Red […]

In this post, we go over how to perform sub maintenance. How to Perform Sub Maintenance All relationships have to maintain the Sub Maintenance activities constantly. To perform Sub Maintenance, it maintains certain activities in the relationship that allows for those involved, the dominant and the submissive, to increase communication between them and maintain satisfaction […]

In this post, we go over how to keep sex toys clean. Vibrators, dildos, and anal toys all come into close touch with biological fluids, so knowing how to clean them correctly is essential. Cleaning your sex toys does not have to be difficult, but the repercussions of not doing so may be disastrous. Using […]

In this post, we talk about how to avoid subfrenzy. How to Avoid Subfrenzy People who are new to BDSM usually aren’t aware of something called “subfrenzy”. This leads to new submissives getting carried away with their submission. Giving themselves over to anyone and everyone, ignoring the risks involved with playing with unfamiliar toys and […]

In this post, we go over what is foot worship and examples of foot worship. What is Foot Worship? Sexual interest in feet is known as foot worship. In other words, these folks are turned on by their feet, toes, and ankles. This affinity for feet might differ from one individual to the next. Foot […]

In this post, we go over face slapping, why do people like getting slapped is it safe, and kinky tips. Why People Like it & Is it Safe? When it comes to sexual slapping, we might become a little uncomfortable. There are debates on whether slapping is abusive, hurtful, or a signal of insanity. Many […]

In this post, we go over examples of forced orgasms and what is orgasm control. What can orgasm control look like? Orgasm control may be accomplished in a variety of ways. The methods employed may differ based on the preferences of those who execute the activity. The permission of the two persons engaged, the dominant […]

In this post, we go over what is dom drop aftercare and examples of aftercare in the case of dom drop. Dom Drop Aftercare Examples The Dom Drop is one of the most common problems in the relationship between dominant and submissive. There are many ways to treat Dom Drop, and one of them is […]

Are you wondering what are the different types of subs? Well, you’ve come to the right place. What are the Different Types of subs? The most popular roles you hear about in BDSM are Dominants and submissives. But did you know there are more types of Dominants and submissives? For example, two of the most […]

Are you wondering what are the different types of submission in BDSM? Well, you’ve come to the right place! What are the Different Types of Submission in BDSM? A lot of people only know about forced submission, which is probably the most stereotypical type of submission. But there are a lot more types, such as: […]

In this post, we talk about the best BDSM music playlist. EDIT: Hey guys! This article is written by my friend Anastasia. The culture where she comes from is different than the US and her music selection may reflect that. This is why I wanted to leave my personal scene playlist here for you all […]

In this post, we go over what is ass worship and examples of ass worship. What is Ass Worship + Examples When you first heard about ass sex (also known as tossing salad, ass eating, peach munching, or eating the booty like groceries), you undoubtedly thought to yourself, “Wait, people really do this?” Yes, all […]

In this post, we’ll be going over what is breast worship and examples of breast worship. What is Breast Worship? + Examples Many people believe breasts to be very sexual body parts that encourage desire. Breasts appear in a wide range of forms and sizes, and their adoration spans the spectrum from a desire for […]

There are so many incredible benefits to using sex toys in the bedroom. Sex toys are increasingly making their way into bedrooms worldwide as society becomes more open to sex and intimate pleasure. All one has to do is look through any sex shop’s catalog to see not only how much the variety of toys […]

Are you wondering what is pet play in BDSM? What is Pet play in BDSM? Pet play is a kink that falls under one of the many BDSM topics. It presupposes a pet/host relationship between people and does not always involve sex. Why do people like pet play? Modern people, especially very busy people, get […]

In this post were are quickly going over what is knife play. What is Knife Play? One of the most popular topics in BDSM is knife play. Knife games are based on fear, rapid movement of the knife on the body, and the sensation of accidentally forming superficial cuts.  Knife Play & Cutting When playing […]

Are you wondering what is a service top? Here is a quick explanation, but read this carefully or else you’ll confuse yourself. What exactly is a Service Top? The Service Top plays an active role in the exchange of power. While at the same time, he is told what to do from his Power Bottom.  […]

Are you wondering what is breath play and why people love it? In BDSM, breath control, or breath play, is quite popular. Its purpose is for the dominant partner to choke or make breathing difficult for the submissive.  Although this can be risky, when done properly and safely, breath play can be a very exciting […]

This post, A Quick Guide on Caning, was written by my friend Asani. What is caning? Caning is a technique where the dominant strikes the submissive partner with a long flexible cane. This is usually done on the buttocks. Canes Types and Uses Canes can vary by material and size. For example, a thin cane […]

This post, BDSM Nipple and Clit Clamps, was written by my friend Asani. Clamps are used to pinch your bits in a way that brings you pleasure. Licking, pinching, and biting nipples delivers an incredible, sensual experience. The same can be said about the clit. Nipple and clit clamps are a few of the most […]

This post, Your Essential Guide to Wax Play, is written by my friend Asani. Heat and hotness have always been related to sexual tension. “Being caught in the heat of the moment.” But if you want to experience real heat in the bedroom, you need to check out wax play. My master and i are […]

This post, A Quick Guide to Mouth Gags, is by my friend Asani. One of the most popular toys in BDSM is the mouth gag. I consider it a household favorite in my sex toy collection. However, there are a few misconceptions about using a gag. What is a gag?  A gag is an easy-to-use […]

A healthy perspective on sexuality involves taking a lighthearted and even humorous approach. There is a lot of cultural influence and religious scripture that brings up the concept of sexuality in relationships—and much of which involves a heavy-handed attitude towards what’s “acceptable” and “unacceptable.” These traditional perspectives have been going on for thousands of years. […]

Are you looking for ideas for BDSM punishments? Well, you’ve come to the right place. What Punishments are for Punishments are generally used to discourage specific behavior. You can use positive punishments that would benefit your sub while discouraging poor behavior. And you can use negative punishments to take away privileges to discourage breaking rules […]

Are you looking for how to make a BDSM aftercare kit? Aftercare is very personal, so it makes sense that everyone’s aftercare kit is going to vary a bit since everyone’s needs are different. How To Make A BDSM Aftercare Kit If you are a sub, it’s a good idea to make your own aftercare […]

Are you a bottom who has trouble stopping themselves from taking control from their Top? Check out What is Topping From The Bottom? Here are some ideas to consider on how to stop topping from the bottom. How to Stop Topping from the Bottom You need to keep in mind that for your partner to […]

In this post, we’ll be going over what is “topping from the bottom.” Check out How to Stop Topping From The Bottom. What is Topping From the Bottom? Topping from the bottom refers to a submissive deliberately disrupting their Dominant’s authority. In a scene, this refers to the physical act of a bottom “taking over” […]

Are you wondering what is Consensual Non-Consent (CNC kink)? Well, you’ve come to the right place! What is Consensual Non Consent? CNS is essentially a roleplay of a non-consensual encounter. The “consensual” part of consensual non-consent means that the people involved already gave consent before the scene. The typical example of CNC is a “rape […]

Are you wondering what is a soft Dom? A soft Dom is someone who takes a gentler, yet still very firm, approach to Topping someone. What do Soft Doms like? Soft Doms like knowing that they can ask or issue a command calmly while knowing it’s enough to make you obey. A soft Dom who […]

Are you looking for how to deal with subdrop? Well, you’ve come to the right place. How to Deal with Subdrop What is subdrop? Subdrop, or drop, is a term used to describe the negative feelings a bottom can have after experiencing a scene or kinky sex. If you are a bottom, understand that there […]

In this post, we’ll be going over questions to ask a potential submissive and some things to consider while vetting. Vetting a potential submissive isn’t that different than first meeting and dating someone who is vanilla. You want to feel the person out and determine how much integrity and emotional maturity they have. What is […]

Are you looking for questions for vetting a potential dominant? Well, you’ve come to the right place. What to ask when vetting a potential Dom Here is a list of things you want to know about a potential Dom before seriously considering them: What is their attitude towards consent and safewords? Do not get involved […]

It’s very important that you learn how to spot a fake dom. What are fake Doms? Fake doms are people who are inexperienced and don’t know what it means to be a Dominant. This is a real problem because many men who hear about D/s dynamics are only interested in it for purely selfish reasons. […]

Knowing what are soft limits and hard limits are important in BDsM. They help establish the boundaries of what is consensual and what is not. What’s okay and what is not okay. Both Tops and bottoms are entitled to have their say in what they will and won’t do. When these boundaries are respected and […]

A submissive journal is where a sub can write out their innermost thoughts. Although a Dominant can observe a sub’s journal, it is typically regarded as a submissive’s safe space. Since submissives don’t have as much leeway for expression as Dominant, this safe space is necessary for a sub’s healthy emotional expression. This means that […]

This article is a submissive Guide to Surrender & Submission. Based on the notes taken from the workshop titled Surrender Theory vs Practice by former prodomme of five years and Ms. Sanctuary Leather 2018. Submissive Guide to Surrender & Submission Surrender, Submission, Service are commonly confused with each other all the time. The most common […]

Welcome to the D/s Aftercare Guide for BDsM. Typically after finishing a scene, the Dominant and submissive can experience an intense endorphin rush high. When this happens your partner is very vulnerable. It’s important that you nurture and comfort them as they come down from their high. What does aftercare mean? Aftercare is taking care of […]

The other day I was having a conversation with someone on the topic of safe words. She was telling me about the last person she played with who claimed to be a Dom. ” I just remember one time we tried something and I called ‘Red’. They made me feel bad about it and said, […]

DomCon is a convention to bring a better understanding of BDSM and to celebrate diversity and promote awareness through education with demonstrations, seminars, panel discussions, and social events and activities. Still being a rookie in his first year in BDsM, I decided to spend a day at DomCon LA 2021. My hope is to learn […]

Are you looking for a comprehensive flogger guide? You’ve come to the right place! What is a flogger? Flogger Meaning: A flogger is an impact toy that is made up of a handle and leather ribbons that can be used to fulfill sado masochistic pleasure. How long is a flogger? The length of a typical […]

Are you wondering about Dom sub psychology in the kink community? Are you asking yourself if Dom sub relationships are healthy? Before I tell you the answer, I want to make something very clear: The BDSM community is not full of people with mental health issues. Society has brought up people to believe that anything […]

Are you wondering if you are a Dom, sub or Switch? To get an idea of what’s best for you, let’s go over some basics. What Does Dom, sub and Switch Mean? Dom Meaning: A Dom, or Dominant, is a “top” role played by someone who likes taking control. In BDSM, the Dom gets pleasure […]

Are you looking for a Dom/sub guide for beginners? If so, you came to the right place! What is a Dom/sub relationship? A Dom/sub relationship is a consensual, power dynamic between “Dom” and “sub”. This dynamic can either be roleplay or role-based, which we’ll go over in just a moment. Some of you are probably […]

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If you’re new to the Scene you might be wondering what are the best books on BDSM, Dom/sub, and kink to get you started? Although nothing beats experience, this list of books will help you get familiar with the lingo and mindsets that surround the BDSM community. Book purchases you make here can help raise funds for […]