Here are some Dom/sub Tips, Rituals, and Routines:
Tips for Doms
- Demand respect from the submissive in the way he treats you.
- When punishing the submissive, explain why. This serves as his indoctrination.
- Always after a punishment, show a little compassion, after all it’s a human being.
- Respect the SSC at all times.
- When doing something unarranged, ask the submissive. The same serves to increase the sub missive’s limits.
- Making a submission contract, this is a special moment that can be explored.
- Tell the sub to do daily chores, so keep him or her connected to you
- Not to do everything the submissive wants, but also to do a little of what the submissive wants.
- Be tough when necessary, but be polite. It is not a frown or fear that will make the submissive obey you, but the admiration he will have for you.
- Respect the submissive’s private environment, family type and work. Don’t mix things up.
- Always keep the sub attached to some equipment while in session. Unless it’s one of his limits.
- Wearing collars is important, as in addition to referring humiliation, it always makes him feel connected to you.
- A chastity device is really cool, it makes the session last for days or weeks. And conditions his sexual pleasure to your presence, holder of the keys.
- When he’s malleable at some point, ask him for a sacrifice in another way. A switch.
- Always show yourself superior in attitudes, but never in knowledge. We all have a lot to learn from others.
- A person when naked, in the presence of another impeccably dressed, feels humiliated. It’s a subtle form of humiliation without a word.
- Have cool clothes for the sessions, but don’t stray from your style pattern. It won’t suit you.
- Don’t lie to the submissive. Better the hard and raw truth.
- In case of more than one subs during a session, it’s nice to create a competition between them. You are the prize.
- Have good equipment, better to have a few quality ones than to have a lot of bad ones.
- A practical study is much more beneficial than a theoretical study. You’ll see that there are a lot of boring people who know a lot of theory, but don’t know how to tie a shoelace on their sneakers.
- Run away from the bad-mouthers from behind, when you turn around, you’ll be the victim. I speak from experience. I was a victim of it.
- Do not demand anything financial from the sub, unless you are a GP Dominator. In this case, make it clear from the beginning of the D/S relationship.
- Don’t be with some “charity” submissive, they don’t want to be with charity Dom. In addition to the session being terrible for you. The horny, the desire are necessary for a session.
- Try to find out as much as possible details of the sub missive’s fetishes before the session. To see if there is an affinity between you.
- Before the session, in conversations, it is good to make it clear that BDSM involves risks. In some techniques more, and in others less. Find out if they have health insurance. Sounds like bullshit, but it can help you in an emergency.
- If you are going to work with candles, be very careful about the temperature of their wax, as well as the possibility of fire.
- Only do more dangerous practices when you gain experience. Special care with breath control, gags that make breathing difficult, and urethral tubes. The strings deserve special attention in blood circulation.
- Make it clear to the sub that BDSM is not sex with equipment. It’s much more than that.
Tips for subs
- Speak when authorized
- Be honest and clear if you are unable to carry out a task or order;
- Knowing how to listen and interpret subtexts and the Owner’s messages
- Be patient
- Complementary list to use during sessions
Ideas of Rituals & Routines
The importance of rituals in a healthy BDSM relationship cannot be overstated. They said the Dom and Sub in remembering their roles and can help them stay focused. However, creating powerful and simple Dom / sub rituals (that don’t fade away) can be difficult. Continue reading to learn about tried-and-true D/s rules and protocols, as well as new ways to improve your connection.
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