A Mommy Dom is a Dominant maternal role in a D/s, or similar, dynamic.
This type of relationship very closely aligns with CGL, and will use abbreviations like MD/l for Mommy Dom / little.
Mommy Doms are generally nurturing caregivers that are kind, patient, and attentive. Depending on the MD, they can have an edge of their own style.
Some Mommies prefer to be strict disciplinarians that want to help their littles. Others may like the parenting aspect and want to coddle their littles.
Depending on the Mommy, some of them will have expectations that will be met and rewarded, for others enough will never be enough. This is the validation exchange they have going on with their littles—where the Mommy gets validation by validating their little or by invalidating their little.
Although I’ve never been in a MDl dynamic, I’ve had moments in my adult life where I felt extremely validated by maternal nurturing women who have taken care of me when I was sick, and have even tucked me in with a blankie, while my body battles for it’s life against the deathly common cold.
I loved it.
It makes me understand people who take on the role of littles who have a “life is a bitch, let me git back in there mom” sort of mentality that makes MDl dynamics enticing. (Yes, I’ve been having those moments lately when I wake up in the morning… sigh, I need a break)
Sadistic Mommies & Humiliation
Mommy Sadists are those who are most likely to invalidate their littles as part of their play. This can be in the form of:
Check out this article on mommy issues if you are interested.
My experience with a sociopathic Mommy
There was a time where a partner of mine had a man nearly twice her age call her Mommy. He would do whatever she told him and it was wildly uncomfortable for me, but whatever.
In the few months I was around these people, he would call her Mommy whenever he did something that he felt was something he should be praised for. He would always ask me how she was doing, to the point of obsession.
Now, admittedly, she was the most narcissistic, borderline, sociopathic person I’ve ever met in my life. And he turned out to be a p******e. But I can definitely confirm that this sort of dynamic offers a huge power dynamic for people who feel the need to be powerful.
Luckily, I got away from these people. And I’m extremely confident she is responsible for someone’s death in the past 12 months—she also did a great job being the most sadistic “Mommy”, or human animal, I’ve ever come across in the entirety of my life.
One time she and I were having sex, and she cucked that guy without me knowing. He still called her Mommy.
I wasn’t aware of how demented this person was.
(This lifestyle has gotten me into some weird scenarios that I will never find myself in again.)
Mommy Kink Guide [MDLG / MDLB Kink]
If you’re planning on being a Mommy Dom, you can start with figuring out the title you resonate with. This can be Ma’am, Momma, Mum, Mommy, Mistress, and similar.
You can also start talking like a Mommy. Generally, this means that you are referring to yourself as your title in the third person when talking to your little:
“Mommy wants you to do X right now”
“What is Mommy’s little boy up to?”
Expect the words you say and things you do as a Mommy to feel clunky. Everything is clunky when we haven’t gotten it figured out. But the more you work the role, the more it will flow.
Check out Adult Baby Diaper Play.
Based in the type of Mommy you want to be, you will play the role accordingly.
There are no actual limits, as long as the dynamic is something you and your little mutually agree to.
For more ideas that apply to Mommy Domming, take a look at the following:
Here are some resources I recommend:
DOM SUB 101 teaches you essential basic and advanced BDSM concepts, such as DomSpeak, power exchange, finding a partner, poly jealousy, primal play, contracts, worksheets and so on.
Submissive Journal: 365 Daily Journal Prompts will help you develop your emotional awareness, build your kinky relationships, as well as explore your submissive self-image and sensual desires.
Danger & Play BDSM Package includes handcuffs, mouth gag, kink paddle, collar and leash, nipple clamps, blindfold, shibari rope, and much more.
Classic Black Flogger is an incredibly versatile 5-star, impact play toy for both beginners and seasoned players.
Discreet Remote Control Vibrator 3 is the funnest toy to have your partner wear for getting them hot and bothered anytime and anywhere. (Read review)
Rose 2-in-1 Vibrator is easily one of the most pleasurable experiences she’s looking to have. (Read reviews)
Low Temp Wax Play Candles are incredible for very intimate, sensual experience that you and your partner will never forget. (Read guide)
The links above are NOT affiliate links. The product links are the exact same products I happily own from trusted vendor Sinful Goods.
Bathmate Hydromax is the safest and most effective male enhancement product I’ve ever used to increase my length and girth. Read more here.
Relationship Subliminal for self-hypnotism will help you change your unconscious behavior, gain better relationships, and attract like-minded people and partners.
DOM SUB 101 (Lite) is an affordable alternative to the ever-growing DOM SUB 101. This is for curious kinksters who are on a budget.
Inner Shadow Work is my main website that goes over psychology, spirituality, emotional maturity, consciousness, etc. If you’re interested, click here.
