In this post, we talk about how to bring sex toys into your relationship.
For starters, you want to bring sex toys for both you and your partner’s benefit—make sure they know that.
Your partner needs to know that introducing toys into the bedroom is not at their expense. This means you need to consider what they want to try in bed and indulge in those fantasies yourself.
Have the conversation at a good time. You don’t want to surprise them with anything. Instead get them comfortable and in a headspace where they aren’t going to be tense and resist.
Reassure them that your sex life is already good. Introducing these toys is about making your sex life better for the both of you by trying something different.
Sex toys are great for foreplay and orgasms. So ask your partner to consider using these toys either in the beginning or towards the end. That way there isn’t some feeling of “being replaced” or inadequacy in the bedroom. Only an addition.
People who are logically-oriented will want to see statistics. If you show these sorts of people the factual data, they are much more likely to concede in bringing in sex toys.
Consider that your partner might have a bad prior experience. It doesn’t take much for a person to refuse something that’s already hurt or disappointed them. Asking for some toys can make you look sexually wild to some people, or they may associate a toy with a cheating partner or other traumatic experience. This demands communication.
Let your partner sleep on the idea. They might not be into the idea right away, but let them process the idea in the span of a couple of days.
Start with a solid package of toys. If your partner knows there’s a kink package that’s a good place to start and isn’t overwhelming, they may be more open sex toys in the bedroom.
Help them find their kink. Sometimes your partner just needs to find their thing; a gateway toy or kink.
Here are some resources I recommend:
DOM SUB 101 teaches you essential basic and advanced BDSM concepts, such as DomSpeak, power exchange, finding a partner, poly jealousy, primal play, contracts, worksheets and so on.
Submissive Journal: 365 Daily Journal Prompts will help you develop your emotional awareness, build your kinky relationships, as well as explore your submissive self-image and sensual desires.
Danger & Play BDSM Package includes handcuffs, mouth gag, kink paddle, collar and leash, nipple clamps, blindfold, shibari rope, and much more.
Classic Black Flogger is an incredibly versatile 5-star, impact play toy for both beginners and seasoned players.
Discreet Remote Control Vibrator 3 is the funnest toy to have your partner wear for getting them hot and bothered anytime and anywhere. (Read review)
Rose 2-in-1 Vibrator is easily one of the most pleasurable experiences she’s looking to have. (Read reviews)
Low Temp Wax Play Candles are incredible for very intimate, sensual experience that you and your partner will never forget. (Read guide)
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Bathmate Hydromax is the safest and most effective male enhancement product I’ve ever used to increase my length and girth. Read more here.
Relationship Subliminal for self-hypnotism will help you change your unconscious behavior, gain better relationships, and attract like-minded people and partners.
DOM SUB 101 (Lite) is an affordable alternative to the ever-growing DOM SUB 101. This is for curious kinksters who are on a budget.
Inner Shadow Work is my main website that goes over psychology, spirituality, emotional maturity, consciousness, etc. If you’re interested, click here.
