Chastity Play is a form of sexual denial.
How to Chastity Play in BDSM
What is the intention for this session with chastity play? The Dom decides how long their sub is locked up, and if or when the sub climaxes.
What cage are you using for this chastity play? There are two cage types: Belts and Cages.
Cages lock up genitals and come in different varieties. This includes metal, plastic, etc. They can also come with various features and attachments such as: electric features, piercing attachments, etc.
You want to consider your comfort levels. Although you can’t expect these to be perfect, if you feel pain—consider trying a different cage.
The length should not be too long that it falls off, but it should also only be feeling snug if you’re hard. You want to be able to stick a finger or two worth of space around your penis when the device is on.
You also want to be aware of the spacers, which are between the ring part and the cage. The better this works with your penis, the overall better chastity experience you will have.
Remember that you won’t be taking this off when you pee. So you want to make sure you can pee accurately.
Safety Tips for Wearing a Chastity Cage
- Apply lotion to your genitals to avoid dry skin
- Be careful with your testicles and be aware of their color and blood flow
- If you have blue balls you can stimulate your prostate to relieve some of that pressure
- Make sure your penis is cleaned regularly while its caged
- Metal chastity devices will set off security metal detectors
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