Cuckolding, or Candaulism, is being aroused by witnessing your partner having sex with another person and being aroused by giving your partner to someone else to use sexually, respectively.
An example of this is a husband letting another man use his wife because he finds it arousing, or a wife getting aroused by the idea of cuckolding her husband and rubbing it in his face.
This is a masochistic humiliation / degradation play that is essentially an infidelity fetish, except within the recognition of consent for BDSM play purposes.
How to Make Cuckolding Work
This demands a lot of communication over boundaries and getting clear on the precise pleasure points per partner.
Since cuckolding and candaulism requires a third party (or more), there needs to be a complete understanding and consensus of what’s going on.
This can be a very traumatic experience if done selfishly on anyone’s part.
Everyone needs to know where they stand in relation to the main relationship. Are they only a one-off cuck partner, or a long-term trustee?
Some people are into literally sitting there watching their partner get plowed.
Others can’t handle that, but are okay with just knowing it’s happening.
There are also some partners that just like to roleplay that one of them is the sexy stranger, and there’s no need for any third party.
Make sure to have protection for STD’s and pregnancies.
Here are some resources I recommend:
DOM SUB 101 teaches you essential basic and advanced BDSM concepts, such as DomSpeak, power exchange, finding a partner, poly jealousy, primal play, contracts, worksheets and so on.
Submissive Journal: 365 Daily Journal Prompts will help you develop your emotional awareness, build your kinky relationships, as well as explore your submissive self-image and sensual desires.
Danger & Play BDSM Package includes handcuffs, mouth gag, kink paddle, collar and leash, nipple clamps, blindfold, shibari rope, and much more.
Classic Black Flogger is an incredibly versatile 5-star, impact play toy for both beginners and seasoned players.
Discreet Remote Control Vibrator 3 is the funnest toy to have your partner wear for getting them hot and bothered anytime and anywhere. (Read review)
Rose 2-in-1 Vibrator is easily one of the most pleasurable experiences she’s looking to have. (Read reviews)
Low Temp Wax Play Candles are incredible for very intimate, sensual experience that you and your partner will never forget. (Read guide)
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Bathmate Hydromax is the safest and most effective male enhancement product I’ve ever used to increase my length and girth. Read more here.
Relationship Subliminal for self-hypnotism will help you change your unconscious behavior, gain better relationships, and attract like-minded people and partners.
DOM SUB 101 (Lite) is an affordable alternative to the ever-growing DOM SUB 101. This is for curious kinksters who are on a budget.
Inner Shadow Work is my main website that goes over psychology, spirituality, emotional maturity, consciousness, etc. If you’re interested, click here.
