Here is a quick step-by-step guide to making a kinky homemade BDSM video.
Step 1: Pick your roleplay and outfits
What are you and anyone else involved going to wear on-screen?
When you’re playing out a scene with your partner, you both are aware of the sensations you are both sharing with each other. However, when it comes to filming a kink video you want to consider the visuals that your audience is going to watch.
By picking out your outfits, you make it obvious what type of roleplay is being enacted on-screen. A good BDSM video makes it impossible for the roleplay to be misunderstood. The best way to do that is to take lots of consideration in the outfits and costumes that are worn.
Step 2: Remove anything that isn’t part of the story
This means that you get rid of the mess in the scene. Everything that appears on-screen should be there intentionally. No messy rooms, no clutter, no trash—unless that’s part of the whole dynamic and story you’re trying to tell.
The difference between a great kink video and a regular homemade porno is immersion. Anyone can make a video of a sex scene—place a camera in your room and have at it. But if you’re trying to make a video that is intentional, whether for self-pleasure, for your partner, or for others—
Make sure that you’re doing well by getting rid of anything that doesn’t distract from the focal point of your video—which would be the roleplay and the actions taking place.
Step 3: Emphasize the relational dynamics
Actors in plays have this figure out, what they do is establish who is being talked up to and who is being talked down to. This is essentially conveying the status between players.
Luckily for us, BDSM is a psycho-sensual activity where status is inherent to all roleplay. This is because there is always a giver and a receiver, a Top and a bottom, etc.
If you do this correctly, there is absolutely no need to explicitly say who is which between the people involved in the video. Your mind will immediately identify this inuitively.
Step 4: Can you see and hear?
If you’re a content creator, then you already know that you don’t need great visual quality, so long as the audience can hear what you’re saying clearly and the material is good.
This is not the case when it comes to a good BDSM video.
BDSM is a very sensual and sensory experience. Since this is a video, the visuals need to be at least decent. Otherwise, it may as well only be an audio.
To get the visuals to work, make sure the camera quality is good, the lighting is good, and the relationship dynamic and outfits tell who is who without having to spell it out for people.
To get the sound to work, make sure your equipment is picking up what you want heard, make sure you can hear the dynamics in play, be considerate of background noises.
Step 5: Record your scenes
Even if you weren’t filming your scenes, applying the steps above would make your scenes much more immersive. And if you already do apply the steps above, then make a habit of consensually filming all your scenes.
Watching your scenes together with a partner, or even at your own whimsical leisure, can be a cathartic experience—both emotionally and physically.
We watch videos and movies because they move us emotionally. We watch porn because they please us physically where there visuals.
So start your own sexy scene archive and hit record with your partner for you to revisit in the future.
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DOM SUB 101 teaches you essential basic and advanced BDSM concepts, such as DomSpeak, power exchange, finding a partner, poly jealousy, primal play, contracts, worksheets and so on.
Submissive Journal: 365 Daily Journal Prompts will help you develop your emotional awareness, build your kinky relationships, as well as explore your submissive self-image and sensual desires.
Danger & Play BDSM Package includes handcuffs, mouth gag, kink paddle, collar and leash, nipple clamps, blindfold, shibari rope, and much more.
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Rose 2-in-1 Vibrator is easily one of the most pleasurable experiences she’s looking to have. (Read reviews)
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