Here is a brief post on how to finger women if you’re completely new:
Consider how comfortable she is talking about sex. We’re starting here because her comfort around sexual topics are going to reflect how positive she’ll respond to sex in general, including being fingered. So communication and letting her know that it’s a normal thing to talk about with you is important.
A quick anatomy lesson. The outer area of the vagina is the vulva where there may be hair on the outer lips. The top is the mons pubis. The clitoral hood covers the clitoris. Under the clitoris, but above the vagina, is the urethra—this is where pee comes from.
Here are some ways to touch a woman’s bits:
- You can graze up and down her external lips with your fingers or other
- You can do circle strokes around and then on the clitoris
- Spread open the lips and insert your fingers, and you can also use your other hand or a free finger to attend to the clitoris at the same time
- If you are orally stimulating the clitoris, you can put your thumb in her pussy so she gets some feeling of “fullness” while you lick her raisin
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