The following are 5 tips of pro domme advice for couples:
Prepare your partner mentally beforehand. Talk about what you and your partner will do with each other in the bedroom. This is more likely done over text instead of in-person. While some people will say it kills the “surprise”, what you’re really doing is building up the anticipation and excitement for what you both want to do.
Work on setting the mood. Put some effort in making the bedroom a place for a sexual, sensual experience. Consider all of the following:
- What is the vibe, what is the feeling in the air?
- Will there be toys, and what kind?
- Are lotions and lube involved?
- What scent will fill the room?
- Is the room clean or filled with clutter?
- What is the background music playing?
Make things sensual for your partner. How are you going to involve your partner’s sensations? You can try adding silk, satin, velvet, and other fabrics or lingerie to the mix. Different sensations help build up pleasure.
Who is giving and who is receiving? You both need to negotiate where the pleasure is directed to and who is it coming from. Let there be a healthy and satisfying level of reciprication between the two.
Don’t criticize your partner right after it’s all said and done. Instead you wanna bring up any constructive mental notes you have at least some days later. This way nobody feels like they’re getting punished for being vulnerable for following-through and the memory of the experience isn’t tainted.
Here are some resources I recommend:
DOM SUB 101 teaches you essential basic and advanced BDSM concepts, such as DomSpeak, power exchange, finding a partner, poly jealousy, primal play, contracts, worksheets and so on.
Submissive Journal: 365 Daily Journal Prompts will help you develop your emotional awareness, build your kinky relationships, as well as explore your submissive self-image and sensual desires.
Danger & Play BDSM Package includes handcuffs, mouth gag, kink paddle, collar and leash, nipple clamps, blindfold, shibari rope, and much more.
Classic Black Flogger is an incredibly versatile 5-star, impact play toy for both beginners and seasoned players.
Discreet Remote Control Vibrator 3 is the funnest toy to have your partner wear for getting them hot and bothered anytime and anywhere. (Read review)
Rose 2-in-1 Vibrator is easily one of the most pleasurable experiences she’s looking to have. (Read reviews)
Low Temp Wax Play Candles are incredible for very intimate, sensual experience that you and your partner will never forget. (Read guide)
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Bathmate Hydromax is the safest and most effective male enhancement product I’ve ever used to increase my length and girth. Read more here.
Relationship Subliminal for self-hypnotism will help you change your unconscious behavior, gain better relationships, and attract like-minded people and partners.
DOM SUB 101 (Lite) is an affordable alternative to the ever-growing DOM SUB 101. This is for curious kinksters who are on a budget.
Inner Shadow Work is my main website that goes over psychology, spirituality, emotional maturity, consciousness, etc. If you’re interested, click here.
