A remote-controlled vibrator is a sex toy that can be used for discreet public thrill. You can use this with your partner for unique in-person teasing or long-distance fun.
Here are our tips and tricks for making the most out of remote control vibrators:
Find a Quality Remote Vibrator
You want to make sure you use a reliable quality remote vibrator.
What makes a quality remote control vibrator? It comes down to a couple of factors:
We’ve looked at a variety of remote vibrators and their compatible apps. This includes Ferri, WeVibe, OhMiBod, and some others not worth mentioning.
Looking at each of the factors listed above, the toys mentioned each got an overall rating of 3/5 stars across the board. The best remote vibrator we’ve come across, rated at a 4/5 stars is the Discreet Remote Vibrator.
It’s pure fun to use—you won’t forget your partner’s smile when you cause her to stumble with a click of a button.
Here is why we highly recommend Discreet:
MATERIAL USED
5/5 Premium, medical-grade materials ensuring safety and comfort
Made of high-quality material. The Discreet Remote vibrator is made of medical grade silicone that is soft, comfortable, odorless, and very water resistant.
Comparing quality and pricing with other brands The Discreet Remote Vibrator is much more affordable than the other brands, while still being made of a higher quality material.
BODY SAFETY
5/5 Clinically tested and safe for a wide range of users
It fits securely inside the vagina or butt. It’s an excellent vibrator for G-spot and prostate stimulation. However, it works incredibly well as an external clitoris vibrator as well.
Internal and external use. This toy is worn internally and is used primarily for pleasuring the G-spot. While the “egg” goes inside the body, the “tail” is left out and serves as both an antenna and handle for pulling the toy out.
DESIGN / FUNCTION
4/5 Well-designed with useful features
The Discreet Remote Vibrator is super easy to use and control. You can use it on your partner both nearby or remote.
Strong connection between toy and app, meaning that although every app-controlled toy experiences some occasional disconnections, it’s a very rare occurrence for Discreet toys. On the chance it does disconnect, it reconnects easily and automatically—while other brands need to go through a big painful process.
Strong motor function. We’ve used Ferri and our Discreet remote vibrators at noisy restaurants and bars and have never been noticed by anyone. I can’t even hear or feel the vibrations when I’m sitting next to my partner and she has the toy shaking inside her.
Don’t be thrown off when you use the toy at home and it seems loud. When it’s inside the body the sound dampens and gets hard to hear. Especially if there is some background music or noise going on.
Features of the easy-to-use app. The easy-to-use app connects to the toy and has a variety of features you can use to play with your partner anywhere.
Although I prefer focus on the toy’s quality, such as it’s reliable battery and strong motor function—the app is actually pretty damn easy to use and I actually don’t have any complaints.
Strong, buzzy vibrations that can also be modified in-app to vibrate in custom or preset patterns.
POWER SOURCE
4/5 Long-lasting power, rechargeable and efficient
The battery lasts a minimum of one hour of play. This is a lot for in-house play, but it can be a bit on the short side if you’re using for public play. I find that as long as you’re wise about when you activate it in public, it can last multiple hours—more than you’ll actually need. (You’ll find tips for this further below).
Specialty charger is included. This is the real reason why Discreet didn’t get a 5/5. Since the charger cable is a two-prong magnetic cable instead of something more available—such as USB-C—we’ve decided to knock a point off. Despite this, it’s very efficient and has lasted for several months already without breaking apart. When the Discreet Remote Vibrator is charging, a red light flashes at the “tail”.
EASE OF CLEANING
5/5 Effortless cleaning, often dishwasher-safe or easily sanitized
Refined quality that is very smooth, comfortable, and easy to clean for frequent use. I have no complaints. It’s better material that easier to clean than most toys. Look further down for more info on cleaning and maintaining this toy.
Use App Features
Nearly all remote vibrators come with app features for you to try out. For example:
Customizable vibration patterns is a very popular feature you’ll find across vibrator apps. They let you set up intervals and vibration patterns to stimulate your partner.
However—
Not all apps are made the same. You’ll find that just about nearly all the apps made by these companies aren’t the highest quality. Many of them are decent, but janky.
Again, this is why we prefer Discreet over the other apps.
Ease of use with the Discreet app. We actually prefer the Discreet compatible app because, aside from being internationally used, this app is much more reliable than other brands.
Issues with other brands (WeVibe, OhMiBod). For example, the WeVibe is known to be an absolute nightmare to use. Many users, myself included, have to delete the app and redownload it every time we use the WeVibe.
To avoid any broken app hassles, we prefer to use the Discreet Remote Vibrator compatible app since it is much more reliable and not prone to breaking.
Reliable app with variety of features that is easier to use than other contenders. It has more bells and whistles while letting you play with multiple partners you can pair up with. Since the app is used all over the world, you can pair up with foreign partners.
5 Practical Tips for App-Controlled Vibrators
Here are some practical uses and tips for using a remote sex toy:
Discreetness and noise levels. The Discreet Remote Vibrator is very quiet and allows you and your partner to have undetectable fun in private and in public.
However, I do want to point out that on higher vibration settings you can sometimes hear the vibrator making light sounds. Otherwise, it’s inaudible.
If there’s any background noise, you won’t really have to worry about this. But keep in mind that just because you won’t hear it, doesn’t mean other people who are sitting nearby won’t feel the vibrations if they are set on higher settings.
This is important because you want your public play to be undetectable to others. We like this remote vibrator because on the normal settings you aren’t involving other people in your kink.
Securing the vibrator in place. My girlfriend tells me that the toy has no trouble staying in place. But she also made a comment that you want to wear underwear that will help support the toy in staying inside, since gravity and movement may shake the toy down.
Double penetration possibilities. It’s also great for double penetration! So you both get to feel the vibrations.
Adapting for clitoral stimulation. If you are someone with a meatier mons pubis or thicker thighs, you may not particularly enjoy remote vibrators that are inserted into the vagina.
Instead, what many users do is tuck the vibrator in a way that allows for clitoral stimulation instead.
Bluetooth range and connectivity. Personally, I haven’t had any issues with the bluetooth in terms of range—whether close-by or when using in long distance.
My partner and I have found that the app connects much more easily and maintains a reliable connection moreso than the WeVibe and OhMiBod remote toys we tried out.
On the occasion that the app loses connection to the toy, it only takes a quick moment before it reconnects—largely making is a non-issue.
Bonus Tip: You can also use a Discreet Remote Vibrator to use as a prostate massager on your slaves.
Make Sure To Clean Your Toy
It’s important to clean your sex toys both before and after using it. The following are some tips to help you clean and maintain your remote vibrator:
Use water-based lubrication to make sure the toy doesn’t wear and to help make insertion and external use more pleasurable and comfortable.
Cleaning and storing the vibrator It’s important to clean your toy before and after each use to prevent bacteria being spread. You do this by cleaning the toy with warm water and toy cleaner/mild soap. Be sure to store your toy in a dry and clean place.
You can check out more tips here.
8 Ways To Play for Beginners
Here are some of the ways I like to use my remote vibrator to play with my partner:
Exploring preferences at home. The Discreet Remote Vibrator is great if your partner doesn’t know whether she prefers clitoral or G-spot stimulation. This way she can adjust whether she wears it internally uses externally to get her jollies.
Using the app for the first time. I also recommend that she play with it at home first before taking it out of the house for public play. This way you both can figure out what she likes while learning how to use the app and toy.
If you’re using a remote vibrator at home, try using the Discreet vibrator clitorally, since it’s a nice size that’s easy to move all around her vulva.
And if she wants powerful rhythmic vibrations, you can use it on her clit.
Vibrate at Intervals is when you keep the toy vibrating for ten to twenty seconds at a time. This is much more sensible because the goal is to get your partner really turned on in public, not necessarily to get her off.
Lazy Foreplay is when you’re not in the mood to put in the work, so you let the toy get her going instead. After putting her in the mood, you can “punish” her for being “disrespectful” and penetrate her yourself.
Combination Play is where you know your partner enjoys pain play. This means you can include things like a whip or flogger.
Or you can use sensation play by tying her up and blindfolding her. Slapping her gently in sensitive places like her inner thighs, breasts, soles of her feet.
Use the vibrator patterns while you are doing all of this. You can even use an ice cube to glide across her skin to drive her crazy as a for of temperature play.
Orgasm Denial using a remote vibrator is especially fun because you can set it on high and tell her that she’s not allowed to cum.
Forced Orgasms is also fun because you can force your partner to have multiple orgasms in public while she tries her best to look as normal as possible.
These are obviously done best in an appropriate environment, such as sex parties and similar.
Shared Orgasm Control is where you pass the control to others and make her guess who is controlling her, while making her cum in front of everyone.
Public Play & Long-Distance Kink
The biggest reasons we love using remote toys is because we want to have the sexual thrill of stimulating our partner in public—this can be either in-person or if you’re in a long-distance relationship—from a distance.
You will fall in love with having sexual control over your partner remotely, whether you’re hanging out together in private, public, or even when you’re not with them.
For example, I bought some cheapy remote toy that seemed to work well in-hand, but when I took my girl out and we sat to eat, I turned it on and it wouldn’t turn off.
The way she was looking at me me was scary. She was trying to hold herself together, but no matter what buttons I clicked on the app, the cheapy toy wouldn’t stop. Had to throw it out since it wasn’t working and couldn’t stay connected for me to turn off.
We’ve never had that issue with Discreet. The Discreet Remote Vibrator is also much more reliable than the others we’ve tried.
The best way to use a remote vibrator in private is to find the rhythmic pattern that you’d enjoy playing with yourself the most.
For an entire day I had my partner wear the remote vibrator. I teased her with the toy while we went into town, the whole time she’s buzzing and can’t help but make faces. Sometimes she’d look like she were about to fall over. At one point, she buried her face into my shoulder because she was climaxing and doing her best not to make it obvious.
Definitely a huge turn on for both of us.
We’ve also used it at parties to keep her wet and smiling.
Establishing communication signals and gestures. Make sure you both agree on gestures and signs to communicate things such as:
- “Turn it on”
- “Turn it off”
- “Faster”
- “Slower”
- “Change the pattern”
- “I’m about to cum”
You want a subtle way to communicate these things between you two in case someone is too close to have the conversation comfortably.
Make sure the both of you are on the lookout and remember any bathrooms or hidden areas nearby, in case the remote toy needs to be remove for any reason.
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