In this lesson, we will teach you how to use the five love languages and apply them to your sex life.
Words of Affirmation
This is easily played out in Praise Kink where you reward your partner for doing a good job or by worshipping physical attractiveness and body parts, such as:
You can also send kinky text messages to make your partner feel good and even lead to foreplay.
For any relationship, it’s also a good idea of making a habit of writing on sticky notes or pieces of paper saying things like “I love you”, “Have a good day”, “You’re butt looks great without jeans”, etc.
Partners who love getting words of affirmation adore these thoughtful little efforts.
Gift-Giving
The types of gifts you give for improving your sex life is pretty obvious. This can include:
- floggers
- remote control vibrator (Recommended)
- kink toy set (Recommended)
- butt plugs
- pet play tails
You can even take your partner out for some shopping to show them how much you appreciate them; sugar baby treatment.
You don’t even have to buy anything if you’re not looking to spend money. Instead you can make something for your partner if you have any crafting skills.
If you’re looking for more ideas, consider putting together an aftercare kit for your partners or a kinky travel bag.
Acts Of Service
Engaging in BDSM scenes is largely it’s own act of service, assuming that you’re making the effort to do the things your partner is interested in.
For example, maybe your partner has been wanting to try anal pegging and you want to learn how to do anal play with them.
Or maybe you want to incorporate more service-oriented roleplay in your kink life. This can take the form of:
- Being a Service Top
- Embracing Slave Submission
In terms of a relationship, you can give your partner sensual massages after they’ve come back from a day’s work, or you can take note of their daily routine and help them with a task to make their day easier.
Quality Time
If you’re in a romantic partnership, then know that every relationship needs at least 4 to 6 hours of quality, undivided attention between both partners every single week. This can mean having a date at least once a week or every ten days.
In terms of kink, you can easily do this by providing them safe, accepting environment to get into subspace or the mental headspace in the following forms of play:
You can also fulfill some of the top sexual fantasies for your man or woman.
You are giving your partner this quality time, undistracted, because they deserve this.
Physical Touch
For many, this is a given when it comes to kink. But outside of a sexual context, it’s important to give your partner the affectionate touch that they need.
If you’re looking to embrace your partner with physical touch without focusing too much on the sexual aspect, consider learning about sensate exercises and aftercare.
Don’t forget to give your partner lots of back scratchies, hugs, and cuddles whenever you can.
Here are some resources I recommend:
DOM SUB 101 teaches you essential basic and advanced BDSM concepts, such as DomSpeak, power exchange, finding a partner, poly jealousy, primal play, contracts, worksheets and so on.
Submissive Journal: 365 Daily Journal Prompts will help you develop your emotional awareness, build your kinky relationships, as well as explore your submissive self-image and sensual desires.
Danger & Play BDSM Package includes handcuffs, mouth gag, kink paddle, collar and leash, nipple clamps, blindfold, shibari rope, and much more.
Classic Black Flogger is an incredibly versatile 5-star, impact play toy for both beginners and seasoned players.
Discreet Remote Control Vibrator 3 is the funnest toy to have your partner wear for getting them hot and bothered anytime and anywhere. (Read review)
Rose 2-in-1 Vibrator is easily one of the most pleasurable experiences she’s looking to have. (Read reviews)
Low Temp Wax Play Candles are incredible for very intimate, sensual experience that you and your partner will never forget. (Read guide)
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Bathmate Hydromax is the safest and most effective male enhancement product I’ve ever used to increase my length and girth. Read more here.
Relationship Subliminal for self-hypnotism will help you change your unconscious behavior, gain better relationships, and attract like-minded people and partners.
DOM SUB 101 (Lite) is an affordable alternative to the ever-growing DOM SUB 101. This is for curious kinksters who are on a budget.
Inner Shadow Work is my main website that goes over psychology, spirituality, emotional maturity, consciousness, etc. If you’re interested, click here.
