In this post, we go over what are BDSM rituals.
The terms rituals, rules, and protocols are often used interchangeably, but they are distinct. A BDSM protocol is a firm rule that is usually included in a D/s contract. A ritual is more of a method of accomplishing a goal. It’s almost always an action in which the Dominant orders a set of behaviors for his own pleasure and benefit.
Why do Dom and Sub rituals exist?
Rituals are a method of restraining a submissive. They instill in them the values of obedience and submission, as well as keeping them in the right frame of mind. This holds true for the Dom as well. A ritual can sometimes return both parties to their roles if a sub has been allowed to act too spoiled or is pushing it from the bottom.
My rituals are something I look forward to and consider almost solemn and spiritual. When I perform a ritual, it has a ceremonial feel to it. I am relieved to know that I am fulfilling my father’s wishes and making him happy.
D/s rituals, rules, and protocols examples
The rituals are automatic, so you don’t have to rely on a good sub all of the time. If a sub forgets something (which happens from time to time), they must be disciplined accordingly. A good Dom doesn’t create rituals for the sake of having them. They must be there for a reason, and it must be for your enjoyment. Here are some examples of my father’s rules and protocols for me to give you some ideas:
- Kneeling is number one.
Because my Daddy wakes up early, he usually goes to bed earlier than me, so when I’m ready for the night, I sit next to him and kneel down. “I’m ready for bed now, Daddy,” I’ll rub him lightly if he doesn’t wake up by then. I’ll kneel on the floor and wait for permission to get into bed if he hasn’t gone to bed yet. It also causes me to kneel in front of a scene.
- Greetings upon arrival
This is another popular ritual that I feel comfortable performing in public. I’m going to give him a kiss and say, “Hi Daddy,” wherever he is in the house and whatever he’s doing when he gets home.
- In the morning, a text message
My Daddy and I decided to start a morning texting ritual. He usually texts me first to wish me a good morning and to express his love for me. I respond with how I’m feeling, a detailed schedule for the day, and the fact that I enjoy it. I enjoy seeing a text message from him when I wake up, and it also allows him to ensure that I get up on time.
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