In this post, we talk about what is a BDSM scene.
What is a BDSM Scene?
A scene is an planned out scenario between two or more consenting people who are interested in having a mutual experience.
A scene consists of power exchange where one person takes the role of Top or Dominant and the other person takes the role of bottom or submissive. Examples of power exchange dynamics would be Dominant/submissive or Master/slave, etc.
A scene can last between minutes to hours to days, depending on what was mutually agreed upon.
The goal of a scene is to create a pleasurable experience for everyone involved while respecting limits, boundaries, and consent.
The following is a rant about scenes according to my friend Anastasia. She has her own elaborate take and manner of explaining things that I appreciate. I think some of you will too. – Rich
The representation of Dominance and submission, like any other theatrical representation, requires a good setting and context based on the roleplay, and, of course, the skill of those involved.
As previously stated, the script should collect the script that meets the needs and fulfills the representation of Mistress and submissive erotic fantasies. On many occasions, the Mistress’s dominance over the submissive follows a nearly predetermined pattern, a ritual that is almost always carried out. The Mistress’s authority is established first. The submissive then transgresses that authority in some way by doing something that is punishable. The submissive must feel appeased and at ease after the punishment has been carried out, essentially satisfied with the authority that has been exercised over him.
The establishment of authority is the most important of all these ritualized steps. The fact that authority has been established is a principle without which gambling would be impossible. This step is relatively simple for the submissive who wishes to feel like a child being tyrannized by a governess or nanny. The establishment of authority in other types of erotic fantasies may not be as straightforward.
The erotic fantasy takes shape at this point. For example, the pirate boss has kidnapped the submissive, and she must prove his strength and worth before deciding whether to sell him as a slave or keep him as a servant. This is the stage of spanking, maid service, oral servitude, and other forms of corporal punishment. It’s the stage where the submissive is compelled to act a certain way, make certain gestures, and play a humiliating role… This stage is usually very enjoyable for the Mistress, and it can include peak moments of hedonistic sexuality for her. Assume you’re the Mistress, and you’ve forced your submissive to perform a cunnilingus for you. full. Wouldn’t it make you happy if your slave licked your pussy well? Wouldn’t it be nice to feel the play of a submissive tongue between your lips’ innermost folds?
Punishment and transgression
The game’s next stage must be built around the concept of transgression. The submissive violates the Mistress’s rules in one way or another (depending on the type of sexual fantasy). The Mistress must inflict punishment to make it clear to whom the authority belongs. There is no way to be rewarded because no deserving act has occurred. The punishment must be agreed upon and must include some form of pain.
For many submissive men, this is the most crucial stage. Punishment must always be applied at the appropriate time. Perhaps a few cheeks or a few papirotaps on the penis will suffice for the submissive. But maybe you’re looking for something a little more challenging. If you’re acting like a true Mistress, you should be aware of which toys and poses your sub finds the most humiliating. Knowing him means you’ll be able to determine exactly what punishment he requires. By figuring out what they’re looking for, you can give them an experience of punishment that delivers a pleasurable experience. Others will find relief only through orgasm or the comfort that you, Mistress, may be able to provide after your severe punishment.
Almost always, orgasm comes at the end of the session. It’s been postponed as a form of punishment. You can have a lot of cattle if you know how to do it. Bringing your sub to the very edge of climax and then denying him ejaculation relief for a brief moment is a magnificent form of punishment. He’ll beg you to help him finish. He’ll almost certainly tell you that he wants to come and that you should let him. To punish him, play on his need for relief. The game will be extended, and the pleasure will be increased.
You can achieve orgasm in a variety of ways, this includes masturbation, whether by your hand or theirs. You can also use your feet to masturbate him (well lubricated). You can also give him a good titjob, place his penis between your breasts, and have them wiggle your submissive’s erect cock until it explodes. And you can also have sexual relations that are more complete. You can also choose not to orgasm. You are free to do whatever you want. It is, after all, your fantasy. You are solely responsible.
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DOM SUB 101 teaches you essential basic and advanced BDSM concepts, such as DomSpeak, power exchange, finding a partner, poly jealousy, primal play, contracts, worksheets and so on.
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