Damsel In Distress Roleplay is a form of scene that allows players to get in touch with their inner damsel or inner knight in shining armor.
A damsel is a non-wise, innocent woman, who is helpless and incapable of taking care of oneself.
If psychological terms, this is a woman who still doesn’t know herself, her boundaries, or how to get what she needs. In BDSM, this is roleplay, but in real life you could learn about a woman’s journey to selfhood here.
The knight is the person playing out the hero archetype who saves the damsel. This person gets the psychological satisfaction of feeling needed as a savior, bringing someone from a worse place to a better place, and being there for someone who else helpless without you.
Another version of this roleplay involves a hunter player who instead “captures” the naive damsel to use for his own desires. This includes breeding kink, worship, slavery, CNC Free Use, or other I know what’s best for you roles.
Men are typically drawn into the story that they can be a hero in the story—he who could save the princess from the castle or acquire the treasures of wisdom (”divine knowledge” is a feminine principle in cultures across time).
Understand that vulnerability, expressed by the damsel, can inspire excitement or pity in the hero—this disposition leaves the hero player feeling more confident and competent than their damsel counterpart.
The “helpless” role of damsel (or the male version of this) serves as a mirror for one’s own desires, but projects the capability of that onto the “hero” player.
I want to save myself, but I don’t feel capable, I will let my hero save me.
I want to ravage this attractive person, but I don’t feel capable, I will let my hero ravage me.
This is essentially the “Good Girl Chases Bad Boy” dynamic in action.
In psychology, someone who has a more passive nature (the damsel) needs to integrate their inner hero into their own personality—the willingness to take on the Call To Adventure that will bring them forward into Life.
Examples of Damsel In Distress Roleplay
The damsel in distress is upset by their abusive and neglectful. Then she meets an attractive man who is genuine and gets her attention. The damsel complains that her abusive partner hasn’t been satisfying her and she needs to get out of this situation. Then the Hero seduces her and she gets the emotional and sexual satisfaction she needs from this passionate encounter.
A damsel is cooking food in the kitchen and a burglar (hunter) traps her. This CNC scene is acted out where the burglar takes control of the damsel’s body and uses her body how he wants. She acts as if she doesn’t want to be sexually taken advantage of, but secretly she enjoys being sexually used by the hunter.
Understand that this is a roleplay where the hero gets to feel competent and in control, whereas the damsel is getting a psychological need met that she feels she can’t meet herself.
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