In this post, we talk about what is erotic humiliation along with some examples.
What is Erotic Humiliation + Examples
Erotic humiliation is defined as the voluntary use of psychological or physical humiliation in a sexual relationship, in which one person experiences arousal or erotic thrill as a result of the confused and intense feelings of being humiliated and degraded.
The humiliation does not have to be sexual in nature; like many other sexual acts, the sensations received from it are what is sought, independent of the form of the activity. It can be either verbal or violent, and it can be private or public.
It may readily become ritualized, and unlike certain sexual variants, it can be done across vast distances or online. In an activity like sexual spanking, the difference between humiliation and domination is that the desired result is primarily humiliation, and the activity is only a means to that goal.
While humiliation is a regular aspect of BDSM and other sexual roleplay, it may be extended to a point where it is considered edgeplay by most people, either because of its harsh nature or because of the conflicting perspectives on its psychological impact. This is a very subjective problem that is heavily influenced by context.
Terminology and overview
The person being humiliated is often called the bottom, and the person who humiliates them is often called the top. Other common names are slave or sub/submissive for the bottom, and Master/Mistress or Dom/Dominant for the top. A professional Dominant who specializes in humiliation play is sometimes known as a humiliatrix.
Examples of Erotic Humiliation
Now we are going to show you the most common examples that are performed as erotic humiliation:
- Ejaculating, defecating, spitting, slapping, or urinating on the bottom’s body or, especially, the face.
- Performance of menial tasks or abusive workload such as cleaning the floors with a toothbrush.
- Frequent performance of passive/aggressive sexual services for the dominant, such as erotic massage, or fellatio without expectations of reciprocal acts or intercourse.
- Detailed accountability and control (micro-management) as to time spent or activities are done, including a list of jobs to do, precise directions as to how the housework is to be performed, and exactly how to act and behave.
- Specific rituals and affectations to be adopted. This includes displays of subservience, such as lighting cigarettes, walking at a pace behind the dominant, only speaking when spoken to, kneeling or prostrating in front of the dominant when expecting orders, eating only after others or on the floor, a low-status place to sleep, and a wide variety of body worship activities such as kissing and/or licking the dominant’s feet, boots, buttocks, anus, vulva, etc. to express acknowledgment, subservience, shame, or even positive emotions such as happiness or excitement.
- Suppressed Freedom of Movement. This may include never being able to leave the room in which the dominant is present without permission, and maybe forbidden to leave the house or ‘dungeon’ in general for the duration of slavery or servitude.
- Detailed punishments for a variety of ‘infractions’ or misbehavior, such as having to stand in a corner facing a wall for several hours, flogging or whipping, reduced rations, or forced exercise.
- Roleplaying “lower status” beings such as animals (for example dog or horse) or babies.
- Spanking, whipping, restraint, or other BDSM activities such as cock and ball torture (CBT).
- Prohibitions or restrictions on clothing. For females, a common example is being mandated to only wear revealing bikinis or lingerie. For men, this may include feminizing, cross-dressing, and/or sissification. Both sexes may be expected to go completely in the nude, with decorative objects such as collars, bands, tiaras, or cuffs being the only exceptions.
- Use of chastity belts or other means of erotic sexual denial.
- Wearing of external signs of “ownership” such as a collar.
- Having friends, family, or strangers aware of or witnessing one’s treatment.
- Erotic objectification, where the bottom is cast in the role of an object, such as a footstool.
- Embarrassment.
- Forced Homosexuality
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