In this post, we go over what is sub-frenzy in BDSM?
What is sub-frenzy?
Sub-frenzy is a condition that affects many new submissives. Sub-frenzy refers to the first rush of overwhelming desire to explore every sort of kink, typically at the expense of their own well-being.
Most of us have fantasized about submission long before we had the courage to seek it out, and when we do, it’s frequently as if someone has detonated a bomb in the center of our lives. It has the potential to swallow you. All you can think about is BDSM.
Because beginner submissives are like children in a candy store, some call it “candy store syndrome.” We want it all now, and we don’t care whether it means we’ll ruin our teeth, have a stomachache, or wind up in a sugar coma.
Is there a difference between simple enthusiasm and sub-frenzy?
Yes, the circumstances might be so strong that a submissive loses judgment and instinct for their own self-preservation.
It’s good to be excited and deeply engaged; it’s when you allow your excitement to cloud your judgment that sub-frenzy becomes harmful. A submissive’s health and safety, as well as their career and family, could be compromised in severe circumstances.
Submission demands a great deal of physical and emotional trust and connection. As you have a better understanding of your own requirements, emotions, tolerances, and desires, you should tread carefully.
What are the symptoms of sub-frenzy?
Essentially, it occurs when you dive in too quickly and take too many risks. You’re doing things that you’ll look back on in a year and wonder, “why did I do that”
- Playing with someone you’ve just met too soon.
- Playing too often (you don’t give yourself enough time to digest intellectually and emotionally, or to recuperate physically between games);
- Engaging in sorts of a play about which you haven’t done enough research to know what’s safe and what isn’t, or even whether it’s something you truly want to do;
- You agree with everyone on everything;
- You don’t make any requests or ask any queries of your own;
- You meet strangers in secret, typically without informing anybody of your whereabouts or who you’ll be with.
Why it is said that Sub-frenzy applies mostly to submissives?
No one argues that new Dominants/Tops have their own set of obstacles and mistakes. Submissives, on the other hand, can be susceptible to higher levels of sub-frenzy and the causes are various.
1) Opportunity
From the minute she creates a profile online or takes her first bite, the submissive is inundated with curiosity and offers.
Newbie submissives are referred to as “fresh meat.” Some of the invitations are kind and helpful, but others are rude or demeaning.
New Tops just don’t have the same options as a submissive. Most Tops are stuck in a position with limited opportunities. When you’re struggling to find any play at all, it’s difficult to fall prey to sub-frenzy
2) Endorphins and altered states
Endorphins are a class of morphine-like chemicals released by the brain in response to extraordinary stress, such as a “scene” or “play” involving protracted flogging or paddling. These hormones connect to oxytocin receptors in the brain and cause them to activate, resulting in sedative and pain-relieving effects that aid in the induction of pleasure. Marathon runners, for example, talk of getting a “runners’ high” from pushing their bodies to their limits during competition.
Because the submissive is on the receiving end of overwhelming feeling and the Dominant is supplying it, the submissive can experience deep altered states whereas most Top/Dominant does not. The endorphin high may be both addicting and impair judgment.
3) A submissive nature
Submissives desire to be pleasing. While this is part of what makes being a submissive so enjoyable, it also makes it extremely easy for them to feel as if they have no right to question, ask, or demand. When you factor in the uncertainties of inexperience, it’s easy for a submissive to find herself in trouble.
This is not to argue that victims are “naturally” submissives! However, because of the nature of their needs, they are far more susceptible to manipulation than the Top/Dominant.
The majority of new submissives (and even some more experienced ones) are still striving to grasp the concept that being submissive does not imply being submissive to everyone.
4) Level of physical risk
We also name it “sub-frenzy” since the submissive is in far greater bodily danger than the dominant. The submissive is the one who is hit, slapped, poked, probed, shocked, tied up, strangled, beaten, dangling, hogtied, blinded, and otherwise rendered powerless in the face of possible bodily harm.
However, this does not rule out the potential of sub-frenzy endangering peaks. This is just another reason why Dominants must be aware of and alert about the phenomenon.
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